Are You The Problem In Your Relationship? (+Solution)

Do you think you are the problem in your relationship? Are you the reason why you think your relationship is not working the way it should be? You will only be the problem in your relationship if you keep dragging it down when your partner keeps working to keep it going.



You are the problem in your relationship if you keep letting your partner down while he or she struggles to keep it going.


The moment your partner encourages you to do good in your relationship so that it can move to another level and you keep doing the opposite of what your partner expects then you are the problem in your relationship.


The best you can do about your relationship is work on building it. Support each other and be available for each. You will never be a problem in your relationship if work on the positive aspect of it.


Work on building it and reaching the relationship goals that you have. You will never be a problem in your relationship if you have a positive agenda for it.
 

I’m I the problem in my relationship?

You are the problem in your relationship if you are pushing your partner away, you ignore him or her, you don’t want to open up to him or her, you don’t treat him or her well and you keep lying to him whenever he or she desires the truth.

By any chance, if you feel that you aren’t a problem in your relationship and it keeps going sideways then start checking on your partner.



Your partner might be the problem in that relationship. Does he or she give you what you expected of him or her? Does he or she make you happy? Does he or she give you the attention you need?


Sometimes you might end up feeling you are the problem in your relationship because you have low self-esteem.


When you have a negative opinion of yourself and somebody else does the harm to something that you care you will always end up thinking that it’s your fault.

What do I do when I’m having the problem in my relationship?


This is what you should of you are the problem in your relationship;


1. Accept that you are the problem in that relationship.

Accepting that you are the problem in that relationship will be the first point that will help you to make your relationship better.



The moment you accept that you are the one that hinders the relationship from making a step forward then you will be ready to work on not being a problem in that relationship.


Acceptance gives people the courage of finding a new way to solve challenges that they face in their lives.


If you remain in denial about you being the problem in that relationship and you start putting blames on your partner then you will never make things better in that relationship.


You will be making things worst and eventually, you might break the relationship instead of saving it.


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2. Get to know what you want from that relationship.

This is the first thing you should do if you find yourself to be the problem in that relationship.


Ask yourself what you want from that relationship. Did you want to get in that relationship?



Did you find yourself in that relationship because of peer pressure? Did you just date the person you have currently so that you can run away from your problems?


Something I would like to share with you about relationships is that you have to enter a relationship to look for true love that will give you happiness.


If you enter a relationship with another intention other than that then you will find yourself to be the problem in the relationship.


This is because people are looking for love and happiness in a relationship not to run away from problems.


The moment you use a relationship for your reasons then you will always have an issue with it.


So, take your time and ask yourself what you want from that relationship. Get to find the reasons why you found yourself in that relationship in the first place.


When you get to find the reasons why you entered that relationship then you will eventually find what you want from it.


Getting to know what you want in your relationship will help you to reevaluate everything and set your relationship back in order.


You will eventually avoid being the problem in that relationship and become the reason why it’s thriving.

3. Start working out your issues to secure your relationship.

 

If you are the problem in your relationship then you should start solving your problems first before dealing with the status of the relationship.

You can make your relationship better if you still have a lot of issues hanging on your neck.

It’s like trying to make the world a better place yet you haven’t made yourself better. That will never work at all.

So, the best thing you should start to do is work on your issues that interfere with your relationship.

If it’s the past that you are still fighting about then start finding a way of letting it go and bury it completely for you to move on.

Slowly, start taking down everything that hinders you from making your relationship progress forward.

Without forgetting, doubts, if you have them then you should eliminate them because you will never make a step in your relationship if you won’t.

You might like this: 5 Reasons why you have doubts about your relationship(+Solutions Outlined)

Take out all doubts you have about the relationship and set everything at the right pace…



When you manage to deal with the issues that hinder you from making a progress in your relationship then you will no longer be a problem in that relationship.


4. Find a motivation to keep pushing your relationship on the right way from your friends.

This is something else you can do if you feel that you are the problem in your relationship.


Sometimes we fail to move our relationships forward and end up dragging them down by losing focus on them, letting go of the commitment, and eventually letting go of the relationships.


This happens, I have seen people breaking without any solid reason.



They just started going silent on each other and it remained that way until they were both find different paths to follow.


When they meet on the streets they walk past each other just like the strangers do. If someone tells you that those people used to date you will completely deny it.


When you find it hard moving your relationship forward then just take your time and look at your closest friends and see how they are moving their relationships.


Think of how long they have been dating their partners and find motivation from that.


If they can do it nicely then you can also give a shot to your relationship and take it to the next level.


Find something that will motivate you to take your relationship to the next step.


Find a reason to fight for your relationship even if thousands of reasons are trying to drag you behind in that relationship.


If you are a problem in your relationship and you find this motivation then you will be able to take your relationship to the next step.

5. Talk to your partner so that he or she can understand your situation and help you out.

The moment you have realized that you are the problem in your relationship then don’t hesitate to share this with your partner.



A couple should share everything that they are going through if they want to make their relationship work.


A relationship built on secrets will never survive for a long time.


So, open up to your girlfriend or boyfriend and tell him or her the situation you are in so that he or she can understand the way you behave in that relationship.


Sharing this will also make it easy for your partner to help you out with the problems you are going through in that relationship.


He or she will share with you something that might be helpful for you to make that relationship better.


Furthermore, your partner will understand you more thus making it easy for you to try your best not to be the problem in that relationship.


6.  Take it easy on yourself it’s normal for people to fail sometimes.

 

We are human beings, so we are not perfect. We can make errors and make things worse if we do not know of them.

It will not be easy, especially if you are starting the relationship to get everything straight. You will slip and make some mistakes here and there before you fully figure out how to handle a relationship.

Take it easy on yourself and slowly learn what you can do to make your relationship better.

Observe your partner and get to know what pleases him or her. Take your time to know him or her deeply.

This will help you to make the right move in that relationship thus avoiding being the problem in the relationship.

Being a helpful partner to someone you met about 2 to 3 months ago might be an issue.

Additionally, people are very different and they all prefer to be handled in different ways.

The ways that you might have known all your life since you start engaging yourself in relationships might not be the same way someone might prefer to be handled.


So, take it easy on yourself and stop punishing yourself for messing things up in your relationship.



You still can make things better if be optimistic and never try to undermine yourself.

My final thought

When you have found yourself to be the problem in the relationship and you take a step on working on the issues that make you drag the relationship behind then you will eventually make your relationship better.

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