When your boyfriend is accusing you of cheating on him then this conveys that your relationship is in a very bad state and you need to do something about it.
If you have no idea why your boyfriend is accusing you of cheating on him then this might help you.
If your boyfriend is accusing you of cheating on him then this means that he is completely insecure; he is afraid of losing you. Also, he doesn’t trust you at all. The other thing is that he might also be cheating on you.
Guys who are players and are used to cheating know everything that a woman can do when she wants to cheat. So, when he notices that you are acting in a way that he recognizes it’s only done by women who are cheating then she will accuse you of cheating.
The funny thing is that they will never tell you where they got this idea from.
Why does my boyfriend accuse me of things I don’t do?
Your boyfriend is accusing you of things you don’t do because he doesn’t trust you. If the trust between the two of you is an issue then he will never believe anything you say. He will always think that you are going against him, thus accusing you.
You will never accuse anyone of doing something even if you think he or she did because you trust him or her. This should be the same with your boyfriend.
So, when your boyfriend goes to an extent of accusing you of things you never did or you don’t do then you should work on your trust issues.
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The other thing is that it’s not always about trust issues when your boyfriend accuses you of things you don’t do.
It can also be that he is accusing you of doing things that you never do because he is searching for a reason for the two of you to end up fighting.
This is especially if your relationship is falling apart and has so many issues that make it complicated.
The truth is that it will be very hard for him to tell you the truth that he is faded up with the relationship.
He might start to come up with constant irrelevant fights and accuse you of things you never did.
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So, you have to check the state of your relationship first before trying to figure out why he is accusing you of things you don’t do.
Did he use to be like that when you first met him?
If he wasn’t that way, then there is an issue between the two of you and you have to sit down and talk about your issues before it crashes your relationship.
Why does my partner always think I’m cheating?
Your partner always thinks that you are cheating because he/she is insecure. If you suddenly don’t have time for him/her, you ignore his/her texts and you always leave secretly without telling him/her then he will always think that you are cheating on him/her.This is especially if he/she was hurt before.
If someone is insecure and he or she is afraid to lose you then when you start acting in a way that he or she doesn’t recognize then he or she will jump to conclusion that you are cheating on him or her.
So, if you have suddenly changed how you used to behave before him or her because of certain things that you are chasing then make a point of talking to him before things get ruined.
Make everything clear between the two of you by having a mature conversation and keeping everything open to each other.
Reassure your partner that you aren’t cheating on him or her and take away the doubts he or she has about you.
If you will not sit down and talk about this issue then it will eventually break your relationship apart before you realize it.
Boyfriend jokingly accuses me of cheating.
If your boyfriend jokingly accuses you of cheating you don’t have to take it seriously. If he is into jokes then he wants to see your reaction. If he isn’t into jokes and this is the first thing he suddenly jokes about then there is an issue.
You don’t have to take a big deal if it appears a joke to you.
I know you have been probably making jokes to him too.
The only thing that might be keeping your head on questions right now is the kind of joke he paused on you.
Anyway, it’s a sensitive joke and rarely do partners throw such kinds of jokes at each other.
If you are more concerned about the kind of joke he made about you cheating and it never gave you peace of mind then talk to your partner about that.
Explain to him how you feel about such kinds of jokes. If he is an understanding guy he will eventually understand what you are trying to talk about without arguing with you.
Being accused of cheating when innocent.
It hurts so much when you are being accused of cheating when in a real sense you are innocent. When your partner accuses you of cheating and yet you are innocent then there is a great problem with your trust foundation in that relationship.
If your partner doesn’t trust you then he/she will accuse you of cheating and stick to it without thinking about the outcomes.
Being accused of cheating when you are innocent sometimes can make someone even go to an extent of cheating because he or she feels that his or her partner thinks that he or she is already cheating on him or her.
So, if this happened in your relationship and you still love your partner make a point of talking to him or her and start working on your trust issues in your relationship.
The relationship will never move smoothly after such kinds of accusations. You will have to clear the air with your partner if you want things to go back to normal
The moment someone accuses you of cheating then this means that he or she has lost trust in you. Not a shred of it is left in him or her for you.
Cheaters often accuse you of cheating.
Cheaters often accuse you of cheating because it’s something that they Keep on doing. The moment they find you acting in a way that they do when cheating then they will eventually conclude that you are cheating too thus accusing you of cheating.
Cheaters always do think that other people also do cheat on them. That guilt is usually inside them. This guilt is what makes them feel that they are also being cheated on.
The moment we do something wrong and we feel that we are supposed to be punished for it and we end up getting away with it we end up feeling that fate will always work out in a way that we will also be punished.
So, if this is the case then a cheater will think that he or she is being cheated on.
What does it mean when your partner accuses you of cheating?
When your partner accuses you of cheating then this means that he/she feels insecure, especially if he/she was cheated on before, and you end up acting in a way that conveys to him/her the signs he/she saw before he/she was cheated on then he/she will accuse you of cheating.
When someone was cheated before by someone he or she really loved and cared about then that feeling of insecurity will not easily go away.
Such kind of a person will be very hard to trust anyone. For him or her to feel safe with anyone around him or her it will take time.
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How to respond to cheating accusations.
If you have been accused of cheating by your partner then you have to have a way then you should do something about it especially if you are innocent.
If you are truly guilty of cheating then you should think of a way of coming clean to your partner and work things about it.
You still have a chance to make things right again.
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This is how to respond to cheating accusations;
1. Try to find why your partner accuses you of cheating.
If your partner has accused you of cheating then you have the right to ask him or her why he or she thinks that you have cheated on him or her.
You can start to find out why she or he thinks you cheated on him or her by asking him or her questions about why he or she thinks you have cheated on her or him.
Don’t be afraid to ask your partner all sorts of questions that will make you know why he or she thinks you cheated on him or her.
You have to know that this determines how your relationship will turn out to be. The survival of your relationship depends on this. This is because if your partner accuses you of cheating and you fail to find your way out of that accusation then he or she will think that it’s true.
You have to find these reasons for things that make him or her think that you cheated on him or her.
These reasons are the first step to solve this issue of accusation of infidelity in your relationship.
This is because If you manage to know why he or she is accusing you of cheating on him or her then you can be able to solve make things clear with him or her.
You can use these reasons or things that made him or her think that you are cheating and clarify to him or her that you are totally innocent.
2. Explain to him or her why he or she thought that you were cheating on him or her.
Now that you have found out the reasons why he or she thought that you were cheating on him them it’s time for you to explain to him or her why that made him or her think that you are cheating on him or her.
If you have found out that he thinks that you have been cheating on him or her because you started keeping secrets from him or her, you leave without telling him or her, you attend parties without him or her and it’s something that you haven’t been doing then explain it to him or her why you have been acting that way.
Come up with the best explanation and don’t leave anything out of it. Give him or her an explanation that it will make him or her come down on his or her knees for accusing you of cheating.
You will never make things better between the two of you if you won’t prove him or her wrong about thinking of you cheating.
If let the accusation remain the way it is because you can’t explain yourself to your partner because of your ego then you will end breaking the relationship.
3. Remain calm and ask your partner to think straight.
Sometimes people end up losing it in relationships because of how their love is progressing. So, if your relationship has been through the ups and downs of infidelity it’s obvious that the feeling of insecurity still surrounds the relationship.
If you know you are innocent about the accusation that he or she made on you then there is no need to be angry and start making it a big deal.
Be calm and don’t over-react. If it’s possible have a drink and stretch yourself.
If you behave in this way without panicking or becoming angry because of the accusation made against you then your partner will know that you haven’t cheated on him or her.
Ask your partner to look at you and think of how far you have come from with each other.
Let him or her reevaluate you if you are the kind of person to cheat on him or her. Ask your partner to think straight if he or she thinks that you cheated on him or her.
This will eventually make him or her know that he or she is just accusing you of things that you never did.
4. Resolve any misunderstanding that is between the two of you.
Sometimes your partner might accuse you of cheating simply because he or she doesn’t understand you since you had a fight.
This might make your partner conclude that the fight that you had and you never work things out is what keeps the two of you distant.
The moment you don’t spend much time with your partner because you are angry at each other because of the misunderstanding that took place a few days ago or weeks then you will end up spending time with other people.
So, this might make your partner think that you took advantage of the fight between the two of you to cheat on him or her.
This is because he or she will notice that you have been spending your time with other people other than him or her.
What do you think he or she will conclude from such kind of behaviour between the two of you?
He or she will eventually accuse you of cheating.
As quickly as possible make sure that you work out your misunderstanding and make things right again.
Sit down and resolve everything and make things in order again in your relationship.
If you will be willing to do this with your partner then he or she will eventually realize that you are not the kind of person to cheat on him or her.
The accusation of you cheating will eventually be dropped and you would have handled it nicely.
5. Take time away if you feel that you can’t respond to the accusation appropriately.
If you are short-tempered and you know that you are not that good at handling things when you are angry then give yourself time away from your partner.
Walk away and try to calm yourself and figure out a way of how you are going to handle the situation.
Such kind of a situation will be handled better when you are in the right control of your emotions.
Talk about 4 to 5 hours if possible but if you find yourself still under tension you can give it a day and reach back to your partner to make issues straight.
You should not take much time away because your partner might think that you have decided to leave him or her. After all, what he was talking about was true.
The earlier you handle this accusation the better chance you have of making your relationship go back to its normal status.
To sum it up, if your partner constantly accuses you of cheating and yet you are always innocent then start finding a way that you can work on your trust issues before your relationship fails.
That is the only thing you will have to figure out.
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