Boyfriend Asks Me To Pay For Things: Why + What To Do

In this article, I will share with you why and what to do when your boyfriend keeps asking you to pay for things.

 

There is a reason why your boyfriend asks you to pay for things. If you know this reason, it will be easier for you to find the right way to approach this situation.

 

Knowing why your boyfriend asks you to pay for things will enable you to figure out a way to stop him from asking you to pay for those things.

 

Without further ado, let me share with you why your boyfriend asks you to pay for things so that you can know what to do about it.

 

This is why your boyfriend asks you to pay for things

1. He doesn’t have the money to pay for those things.

If your boyfriend keeps asking you to pay for things then this is the first thing you should know about him.

 

Your boyfriend is struggling financially and that is why he wants you to pay for those things.

 

The truth is that if your boyfriend had the money to pay for those things that you need then he wouldn’t have been asking you to do it at all.

 

He would have taken care of the bills by himself and let you keep your money.

 

What I can tell you is that most men love to be the providers. They like to take care of the people they love and care about.

 

They take no pleasure when they are helpless.

 

This is for the men who are ambitious and they have an idea of what they want in their lives.

 

But if a man is in a situation where he isn’t able to provide or clear the bills then he will have no choice but to lay the responsibilities on you.

 

So, if your boyfriend asks you to pay for things then know that he doesn’t have the money to pay for those things.

 

It can be that he is unemployed and that is why he isn’t able to pay for those things.

 

Also, it can be that he is working but the money he earns from his job doesn’t provide him with enough cash to be able to pay for the things that you need and that is why he asks you to do it.

 

Either way, just know that your boyfriend is struggling financially and that is why he asks you to pay for things.

 

2. He is using you financially.

This is another reason why your boyfriend asks you to pay for things. Guys also use their girlfriends for money.

 

Your boyfriend may be in this bracket but since you love him you fail to see it at all.

 

If your boyfriend can pay for the things he asks you to and he always keeps asking you to do it instead this should let you know that he is using you financially.

 

Why should he keep asking you to pay for things yet he can do it himself?

 

He does that knowing that he will be able to keep the money to himself.

 

The only money that you will be using is yours.

 

When a guy wants to use you financially he will never think of spending his money on you.

 

He will not buy you anything, he will not pay on the date you go on to and he will lay every responsibility on you.

 

So, if your boyfriend is this person that doesn’t bother spending his money on you but he expects you to do it then know that he is using you financially.

 

If you think about it and you realize that he has never been spending his money on the things that you buy then know that he is using you.

 

He keeps asking you to pay for the things that he wants simply because he knows you will do it without hesitating while he will keep his cash in his pocket.

 

If your boyfriend can pay for the things that he asks you to pay for and he has never made the move to pay for them then know that he is using you for money.

 

He is draining you financially and this is something you shouldn’t let keep on going, find a way to stop it.

 

3. He thinks you enjoy paying for things.

Your boyfriend asks you to pay for things since he thinks you enjoy doing it.

 

If your boyfriend knew that you don’t enjoy paying for those things then there is no way he would have been asking you to do it.

 

He thinks that you find pleasure in being in charge of taking care of the bills and he doesn’t want to take that away from you.

 

The moment you let him know that you are not okay with paying for the things that you need then he will take care of the responsibilities.

 

But if you have never complained about it and you always do it when he asks you to, he will keep asking you to pay for those things.

 

He asks you to pay for those things since he knows you find happiness by doing it.

 

Have you ever told him that you don’t find it appropriate that you are always the one paying for things?

 

Did you ever refuse to pay for the things that he asks you to?

 

If you have never done anything to show him that you are not okay paying for things that he wants you to, know that he thinks you enjoy doing it and that is why he asks you to pay for them.

 

4. He thinks that you don’t have anything important to spend your money on.

Don’t get me wrong on this point that I’m about to share with you.

 

Guys know it when a woman has important things to take care of.

 

A guy will not ask you to pay for things if he knows you have a crucial need for that money.

 

So, if the only thing he finds you spending your money on is something that is not that important yet he uses his money for important projects he will keep on asking you to pay for things.

 

Your boyfriend will not tell you that you should pay for things since you don’t have any use for the money you earn.

 

He will just ask you to pay for things but he won’t comment anything on that.

 

Also, when you don’t have any responsibilities that need much of your money yet he always takes care of other financial issues in your relationship then know that he will ask you to keep paying for small things.

 

He will do that knowing that you are capable of paying for them since you don’t any huge responsibilities on your end.

 

If your boyfriend knew that you have so many expenses do you think he would have asked you to pay for things?

 

He would have understood that you can’t keep on paying for things since you have expenses that your cash needs to cover.

 

5. He is used to you paying for things and he wants you to keep doing it.

Your boyfriend asks you to pay for things because it’s something that you have been doing.

 

If your boyfriend is used to the fact that you are always the one paying the bills then he will always keep asking you to do it.

 

There are some financial issues that your boyfriend will not talk about.

 

He will just let you see the sequence of how things are progressing when it comes to the way you handle your financial issues and expect you to understand that.

 

For instance, if your boyfriend is used to the fact that you are always the one who pays for things and he pays the rent then that is how he will consider you want things to be done.

 

When it comes to paying for things that you need he will always ask you to do it since he is used to you doing it.

 

This is something logical, if you know that your boyfriend is always the one paying rent, will you bother budgeting for rent when you have the money?

 

You will let your boyfriend handle the issue of rent while you will take care of something else.

 

So, if this is what has been happening then you should know that it’s the way your boyfriend perceives things.

 

The only way to solve this issue with your boyfriend is to communicate effectively.

 

I will share with you ways how to tackle this issue.

 

What to do when your boyfriend asks you to pay for things

1. Let know your boyfriend knows how you feel about it.

If your boyfriend asks you to pay for things and this is something he has been doing frequently and you are not okay with it, you should make a point of talking to him about it.

 

Don’t be silent about it if you know it’s something that affects you in one way or another.

 

Your boyfriend is not an angel. He doesn’t know if you are okay or not with what he asks you to do.

 

The only way to solve this issue is by talking to him about it.

 

He asks you to pay for things, you are not happy about it since you feel he is laying every financial responsibility on you, talk about it with him and find a way to tackle this issue.

 

Let him know that you are not okay paying for things every now and then.

 

If you have expenses that you also have to cover let your boyfriend know about them.

 

The moment he knows that you also have bills to clear it will come to his senses that it’s not right for him to keep asking you to pay for things.

 

He will know that he needs to take the wheel of responsibility and clear pay for the things that you need on your daily use.

 

Without telling your boyfriend how you feel about this issue, there is no way he will stop asking you to pay for the things you need.

 

So, if you haven’t told him about how this issue affects you it’s time for you to do it.

 

With that much said, let me share with you the second thing you should do about this issue.

 

2. Plan how you are going to be paying for things with your boyfriend.

If your boyfriend asks you to pay for things and you clearly know that he is capable of paying for them, you should plan on how you are going to solve this issue.

 

Now that you have told him how you feel about what he always asks of you, it’s time you come up with the perfect solution for this problem.

 

You will only be able to solve this problem if you sit down and plan who will be paying for things.

 

There are two options here you can go for;

  1. You can choose that you split the times in which you pay for the things that you need.

 

If you paid this time then next time your boyfriend is going to do it.

 

That is if you all have the same capabilities, depending on the amount of money you earn.

 

This will not work at all if one of you earns more than the other.

 

For instance, if your boyfriend earns more money than you then he should not split the responsibilities halfway.

 

He should be the one paying for those things most of the time unless things turn sideways.

 

The same case applies if you earn more money than he does.

 

This is to ensure that you maintain the balance between the two of you. So that no one feels pressured to take care of certain expenses in that relationship.

 

It’s all about understanding each other and knowing the capabilities you all have in tackling different financial problems in your relationship.

 

This is what will solve this issue, that is if your boyfriend is not always asking you to pay for things since he is using you.

 

If he is not doing it because he is manipulating you then when you bring this issue forward, he will understand you and he will figure out a way to eliminate this problem.

 

2. You can decide that you all contribute the money you have for the things that you bought.

 

Paying for things doesn’t have to be your responsibility or your boyfriend’s.

 

You can choose to hold hands on the things you want to pay for.

 

Combine your cash to pay for the things that you need.

 

If you both have cash then you can choose to pay for those things together so that no one feels that he or she is held against the things she or he has to pay for.

 

The moment you all contribute to paying for the things that you want to buy then things between the two of you will be easier.

 

When you are paying for $500 dollars things, you can choose to pay half and your boyfriend to pay half.

 

You can also pay $300 and your boyfriend pay the remaining cash. This all depends on the amount of money you earn.

 

There is no need to rule on who is supposed to pay which amount of money.

 

This is what will make things easier when paying for things. As long as your boyfriend is not planning to drain you financially by any means this will never bring any issues between the two of you.

 

3. Make a decision and stick to it unless when there is a need to walk away from those terms.

If you have all agreed that you will split things in half, your boyfriend pays today and you will pay tomorrow then that is what you should do.

 

This is what will resolve the conflict between the two of you.

 

You should hold on to this term unless something changes.

 

For instance, if your boyfriend loses his job then know that this rule won’t apply anymore since he doesn’t get the money he used to.

 

It will be your duty to help your boyfriend out until he stands up on his feet again.

 

Don’t just conclude that he should also be paying for those things yet he has no cash to do it.

 

That will never work and you will find yourselves in fights every now and then.

 

On the other hand, if you have chosen that you will all contribute to pay for things that you want then you should hold on to that.

 

Hold hands in paying for the things you want unless a situation forces one of you to take care of the expenses.

 

You should not rigidly hold on to what you planned with your boyfriend simply because things will never be the same.

 

At one point things will change and this will force you to use your brains and think of the appropriate ways to solve your financial problems.

 

Lastly…

 

If you bring forward this issue and your boyfriend complains about it and he wants you to keep paying for things when it doesn’t make sense then you should know that he is using you financially.

 

The only thing you should do if this is the case is to stop paying for those things that he keeps asking you to and let him take care of the expenses.

 

If he will bring issues since you have refused to pay for those things then you should just cut him off.

 

Walk away from him since this clearly conveys that he is not someone who will support you in the future.

 

This is the guy who will lay all the financially responsibilities on you and will never help you in any way.

 

There is no future with such a guy. Don’t entertain him since he will keep on draining you financially, you feel pressured and there is no way you will be able to turn things around.

 

He will rely heavily on you to pay for things and he will make it as a rule.

 

You don’t want to be in a relationship with such kind of a guy especially if you are planning to make it last.

 

But if your boyfriend is asking you to pay for things since he can’t manage it due to the financial situation that he is in then you should understand that.

 

Take care of him but when he can manage to pay for things then you should also let him support you.

 

Thanks for reading, if you have any questions leave your comment. See you in my next article.

 

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