If your boyfriend cheated on you in the past and you are wondering what you can do about it then this is the right article for you.
In this article, I will share with you things you can do if you have found out that he used to cheat on you.
When you find out that your boyfriend used to cheat on you in the past this is something that will hurt you even if it happened ten years ago.
If you won’t do anything about it even when your relationship with your boyfriend is in a good state this will keep on haunting you.
You will never be at peace in that relationship, you will find it hard to trust your boyfriend and you will not be happy.
This is because when you will look at him the only thing that you will see are the things that he used to do behind your back.
I know it may be hard to face this but you will have to do it if you want your relationship to be what you want it to be.
With that much said, let me share with you what you need to know about this issue.
What to do if your boyfriend cheated on you in the past;
1. Admit that it happened and you can’t change it.
If you have found out that your boyfriend cheated on you in the past this is the first thing you have to do.
You will have to admit that it’s something that happened and you can’t do anything about it.
Understand that you can’t change the past at any point.
Admit that your boyfriend did it and he never told you about it for a reason.
Find a way to calm yourself down before you think of doing anything.
If music is what calms you down, then take your time to listen to it.
Do anything that will cool your temper before you confront your boyfriend.
Also, you have to keep in mind that there is nothing you can do about this because it’s something that happened a long time ago.
The moment you know you are in a good state to face your boyfriend then read the next section to know what to do.
2. Confront your boyfriend to tell you why he did it.
You will have to confront your boyfriend if you want to make peace with this issue of him cheating on you in the past.
Confront your boyfriend and ask him why he cheated on you.
I know this may be a hard question but if he wants to save the relationship he will have to tell you the truth.
These reasons he will give you are what will enable you to know what you will do next.
Don’t be afraid to confront him simply because you are afraid of ruining your relationship.
If you decide you will keep quiet about it then know that it will haunt you for the rest of your life.
And this means you will never be happy in that relationship.
There is no need to live with him in this state if this is something you can fix.
But if you feel that you don’t need to face him and ask him about why he cheated on you in the past because it will hurt you more then you can choose to let it go.
If you can make yourself forget about this issue and you will be on good terms with him then I would advise you to do it.
3. Ask your boyfriend how he feels about it.
After your boyfriend has told you why he cheated on you then this is what you can do next.
If the reasons he gave you on why he cheated on you in the past are things that you see in your current state then know that your boyfriend is still cheating on you.
For instance, if he told you he cheated on you because you never gave him enough time and attention and this is the same thing that is happening currently in your relationship then he is probably cheating on you.
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If he never told you about this issue so that you come up with a solution for it then know that he finds it okay cheating on you.
Unless those issues between the two of you are resolved is when he will stop cheating on you.
But if the situation is still the same then don’t expect things to change.
Ask your boyfriend how he feels about cheating on you.
This is the part where you will find out if your boyfriend is sorry for things he did or not.
When you ask him how he felt about cheating on you and he doesn’t show any remorse or he talks rudely to you then know that your boyfriend doesn’t love you.
All along he has been taking you for granted.
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But if your boyfriend chooses to apologize for cheating on you in the past then know that he still loves you and he regrets cheating on you.
And if your relationship with him is on good terms and he doesn’t handle you in a way you hate then you should consider forgiving him.
This shows that he regrets doing what he did and that is why he decide to make the relationship amazing.
He washed away the guilt by treating you nicely and by making sure the relationship is in a good shape.
If your boyfriend won’t apologize for cheating on you in the past then you will have no choice but end the relationship.
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4. Take your actions according to how you feel.
After all this process, how do you feel about him? The way you feel about the relationship or him is what should guide you to take your next action.
If you feel so hurt and you can’t take it and at the same time you need the relationship to go on the best thing for you to do is to take a break from that relationship.
Distance yourself from him for you to heal and when you will be okay you will come back to the relationship.
On the other hand, if you feel that you can no longer look at your boyfriend the way you used to, you don’t even feel to be closer to him and you don’t think you will ever trust him again after finding out he cheated on you in the past then end the relationship.
If you are in this situation you will have to end the relationship because the relationship will never work out.
The more you keep forcing yourself on him the more you will keep hurting yourself.
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You will never get over this thing that he did to you.
This means you will never be happy in that relationship.
5. Keep in mind that we are not perfect.
The action you choose to take about this issue, never forget to keep it in your mind that we are not perfect.
If your boyfriend cheated on you in the past but he has been doing everything to make sure you are happy and he has never handled you like a piece of trash then know that he regrets doing what he did.
He is making up for you by making the relationship better. If this is the case then know that if you break up with him you will be starting from zero.
It will be very hard for you to find a perfect person.
You should just accept that it’s a mistake that he did and you should let it go and keep building your relationship.
On the other hand, if your boyfriend doesn’t treat you the way you want him to, your relationship is in a mess, you are not happy and you eventually found out that he cheated on you then you should end the relationship.
You deserve better than this.
If you have found out that your boyfriend cheated on you in the past and he doesn’t want to talk about this issue, he is being defensive and he is even ready to pick a fight about it then you should let him go.
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This clearly shows that he doesn’t care about your feelings and he doesn’t love you at all.
The best thing you can do is to walk away from him.
But if your boyfriend admits that he did something wrong and he apologizes for doing it and he handles you the way you want him to then you should forgive him and let go of the past.
This shows that he regrets cheating on you.
Forgive your boyfriend and focus on what you are building with him right now.
Thanks so much for reading, if you have any questions leave your comment. See you in my next article.
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