If your boyfriend is controlled by his family and you want to get him off the hook then you should read this article.
In this article, I will share with you what to do if your boyfriend’s family controls him.
Before I share with you what to do about this issue, I would like you to know something important.
Your boyfriend’s family may be controlling him because he likes them to take part in his life.
Also, it can be that your boyfriend is controlled by his family because he has no choice since he depends on them for almost everything.
The other part is this; your boyfriend may be controlled by his family simply because they are toxic.
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With that much said, let me share with you what you can do about this issue.
What to do when your boyfriend is controlled by his family
1. Find out why his family controls him.
Your boyfriend’s family may be controlling him because of thousands of reasons.
Don’t do anything if you have no idea why his family controls your boyfriend.
You have to know that if you are not careful enough you can cause a huge conflict that you won’t be able to handle.
Take your time to analyze and understand why your boyfriend’s family controls your boyfriend.
You never know, it can be that they control him for a good reason, but the only side you see is the negative one.
It’s his family, I’m sure they wouldn’t do anything to hurt your boyfriend except if it’s toxic.
So, before you do anything, find out your boyfriend’s family controls him.
This is what will give you the idea of how to save your boyfriend from this issue without causing any conflicts.
He is your boyfriend, finding out why his family controls him is an easy thing.
If you want to know why your boyfriend’s family controls him, is by checking on what aspect they take the control of him.
The moment you know in which way your boyfriend’s family controls your boyfriend then it will be easier for you to find a way to deal with this issue.
To save you some time in trying to figure this out, let me share with you some of the questions you can use to find out the aspect that your boyfriend’s family uses to control him.
Is your boyfriend’s family controlling your boyfriend on the decisions he makes? Does your boyfriend’s family control your boyfriend on how to use his money?
Is your boyfriend’s family controlling your boyfriend because he can’t handle himself the way they expect?
Is his family controlling him because your boyfriend is very dependent on them for everything?
Does his family control him because it’s toxic?
These are some of the questions you can use to come up with the reasons why his family controls your boyfriend.
When you find the area his family uses to control him then you can save him from his family’s control.
2. Find ways to take your boyfriend off his family’s control.
Now that you have a list of reasons why his family controls him, you can come up with ways to save your boyfriend from his family.
Use the specific reasons you found to save your boyfriend from their control.
If your boyfriend is controlled by his family because he can’t handle himself the way his family expect then you should take tackle this issue.
For instance, if your boyfriend doesn’t handle himself the way his family want him and this is something that endangers him then you should take control of that part.
This is something to do with your boyfriend, since you are connected it will be very easier for you to solve this issue.
You will have to teach your boyfriend how he should handle himself the way his family expects so that it doesn’t control him.
The moment his family notices that your boyfriend can handle himself the way it wants him to, they will stop controlling your boyfriend.
Just like a kid, if the kid can’t handle himself or herself in the right way and you know he or she might end might end up hurting himself or herself then you will take control of him or her.
But when you realize that the kid knows what he or she is doing then you will not bother yourself controlling him or her.
Your boyfriend is still a kid to his family and that is why he is being controlled in that aspect.
If your boyfriend is controlled by his family based on decisions making aspects then this is something you can help your boyfriend solve.
You will have no choice but to talk to your boyfriend about this issue.
Your boyfriend has to be aware of what you are doing to help him out.
It will be very hard for you to face his whole family without your boyfriend having your back.
If your boyfriend’s family takes control of the decisions your boyfriend makes in that relationship, let your boyfriend know that his family is ruining your relationship.
His family being too involved in your affairs and the decisions he makes, will end up destroying your relationship.
This is because you will never do anything as per your wish. Everything you will do in that relationship will be because of your boyfriend’s family.
The moment your boyfriend notices that he is not doing anything according to his will and everything he does is designed and ordered by his family, he will be on your side to set things straight.
He will join hands with you to solve this issue once and for all. Every decision that he will make in that relationship will be based on his own wish and not his family’s.
When your boyfriend will be able to stand up against his family and tell them that he wants to be in charge of his relationship, his family will back off.
And this will take your boyfriend off his family’s control.
If your boyfriend is controlled by his family on how he uses his money with you in that relationship, this is something you can tackle with your boyfriend.
Talk to your boyfriend about it and he will be willing to do something about it.
Let your boyfriend know that you are the only people who have an idea of how you want to spend your money and not his family.
Make your boyfriend understand why you need to do your budget instead of his family taking control of how you spend money.
If his family controls how he spends money in your relationship then there are so many things that you won’t be able to enjoy.
Your boyfriend’s family will keep your boyfriend’s needs a priority and he will never spend his money on you.
You may end up concluding your boyfriend doesn’t want to support you financially, but all these are the doings of his family.
Since his family is the one in charge of your boyfriend’s finance, they cut you off from his budget.
The moment your boyfriend realizes the issues you are facing by his family controlling his finance, he will be ready to work with you to walk away from their control.
You will be able to solve this issue if your boyfriend agrees with you and he doesn’t support his family in what it does.
But if he is on his family’s side then you will never stand a chance of taking your boyfriend off its control.
You have to know that if your boyfriend is controlled by his family because of him being too dependent on them then this will be a hard thing for you to solve.
This will involve so much for your boyfriend to get off his family control.
For you to help your boyfriend out on this, you will have to change his dependence on them.
If you will be able to stop your boyfriend from being over-dependent on his family then you will save him from his family’s control.
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On the other side, if your boyfriend’s family controls your boyfriend because it’s toxic then you should do something about it.
To know how you can handle that check the article below.
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Once you know why your boyfriend’s family controls him, you join forces with your boyfriend and solve this issue together then you will manage to help your boyfriend out.
His family will stop controlling him.
3. Let your boyfriend know the risk your relationship is in.
I have shared with you several ways you can help your boyfriend out with this problem.
I know this may not be an easy thing for you to handle, especially, if you don’t get along with his family.
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You may try everything to help your boyfriend out. But what you see from his family may not be the same thing he sees from them.
And this difference can be a pain in the *ss. You will never help your boyfriend out if he doesn’t see the effects he puts the relationship in.
You will never get your boyfriend to choose sides if he doesn’t know the risks of him being under his family’s palms.
The moment your boyfriend realizes the risks he puts the relationship in and agrees with you on everything wrong that his family is doing that is when you will be able to help him out.
To pull your boyfriend to your side, you have to share with him the risks his family puts on your relationship.
Don’t be afraid to share everything you feel is wrong and this will make him understand why he should get off his family’s control.
Your boyfriend may not see that he is being controlled by his family. But you may be the only person who sees it.
So, help your boyfriend see what his family is doing, and this is the only way you will get your boyfriend to make a choice.
A choice that will result in a significant change.
This is what will get your boyfriend to be on your side and help you tackle this issue.
If your boyfriend will never be on the same page with you about what his family is doing, there is no way you will be able to change this situation.
4. Move far away from your boyfriend’s family to save him.
If you have tried everything I have shared with you in this article, and nothing seems to be working, then you will have no choice but to take this action.
Of course, your boyfriend has to agree with this if you want it to happen.
If your boyfriend will not agree to move far away from his family to avoid being controlled then this will never happen.
The moment you move far away from his family the control it will have in your relationship will be minimal.
And this is what will help your boyfriend and you to get of control of your relationship.
You will be able to make your decisions based on how you feel about them.
There is no one who will tell your boyfriend what to do about your relationship.
This will give you the freedom to do what you want to do with your boyfriend.
Moving far away from his family may not be something easy for your boyfriend.
He loves his family and being far away from them will be an issue.
But he has no choice if he wants to save the relationship. He will have to go far away from them to keep your relationship at peace.
If your boyfriend will not agree to move far away from his family yet all the things you did to take off their control failed, then you should just let him go.
You will have no choice but to end the relationship with him.
He won’t be able to help you in any way, you won’t be happy being around him and this will limit you from so many things.
There is no need to stick with a guy who doesn’t have control of his life and relationship.
He is not a man enough to take good care of you.
If your boyfriend is not doing anything to change what his family is doing then you will have to be real with him.
Let him know that his family will end up ruining your relationship.
This is what will open your boyfriend’s eyes and be ready to save the relationship.
If he cares about you and the relationship, he will be ready to do everything he can to make you happy.
Ensure that as you are doing this, you don’t do things that will cause conflict between your boyfriend’s family and you.
To be honest, if his family finds out that you are the one fueling him to fight what they are doing, they won’t be happy with you.
This will result in a conflict that you will never be able to solve.
And this is something that you can’t prevent if you will be dealing with it alone.
Your boyfriend has to take the lead, you should only back him up to ensure that his family doesn’t control him.
If your boyfriend doesn’t want to do anything to change what his family is doing, thinking about it, it affects you and the relationship at large, you will have no choice but to end the relationship.
This shows that your boyfriend will let his family do anything to hurt you since he doesn’t have a say over them.
If he is controlled by his family, do you think he will stop them when they are doing something bad to you?
Thank you for reading, if you have any questions leave your comment. See you in my next article.
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