If your boyfriend is too attached to his mom and this is something that bothers you then you should do something about it.
What I can tell you is that; your boyfriend being too attached to his mother can end up ruining your relationship.
In this article, I will share with you what to do if your boyfriend is too attached to his mom.
If you will not do something about this, your boyfriend will spend all his time with his mom.
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When he chooses to spend all his time with his mother, this means he will never have time for you.
He will not give you the attention you need as his girlfriend. You will end up growing distant from each other and you eventually lost him.
If you won’t lose him, he will lose interest in you and this will ruin your relationship.
So, if he is too attached to his mother, you have to do something that will stop him from being too attached to her.
Without wasting much time, let me share with you what you can do about this.
What to do when your boyfriend is too attached to his mom
1. Give him your attention.
Your boyfriend is too attached to his mother simply because you don’t give him the attention he needs.
Let me share with you how this makes him too attached to his mom.
The explanation that I will share with you, will let you understand why it’s very important you give him your attention.
What you need to know about men is that at one point or another they will need someone who gives them attention.
They will need someone who will be there to listen to them and reassure them that they are on the right track.
It doesn’t matter how hardcore your boyfriend may seem to be. Even if he doesn’t seem to care about you or the attention he gets from you, there is a moment he will need you to focus on him.
So, if you have not been giving your boyfriend attention simply because you are too busy with other issues then this could be the first reason that made him too attached to his mom.
To make him cut all the attachments he has with his mom you have to give him attention.
He is too attached to his mom because she gives him all the attention.
If you are always busy working, in the evening you are exhausted and after dinner, you have no time to sit down with him and talk about what he is going through, you are losing him.
There are some things that he will need you to do, like; being there when he is too down, not just telling him that things will be okay.
He needs you to ask him how his day was and how his businesses are progressing.
If he is not in the mood you are used to seeing him on, slow down, sit down with him and get to know what is going on in his mind.
Is this something you are doing? If you are not doing any of these things and his mom does them then this is the main reason why he is too attached to her.
His mother gives him the attention that you don’t and that is why he is so attached to her.
She is the only person that knows to give him the attention that he needs.
You are losing him to his mother if you are not giving him your attention.
Talking twice or thrice and going out on dates with him once a week is not enough.
You have to give him your full attention if you want him to be detached from his mother.
This is the first thing I would advise you to do.
On the other hand, if you are giving him attention but it’s too limited, you should increase the amount of attention you give him.
If you will give him all your attention he will not need to be so close to his mom.
He will always be around you because you cater for all his needs and give him the attention that no one else does.
Do this and thank me later.
2. Maintain effective communication with him.
Mothers are known for their effective means of communication. Talking to your mother will make you feel so comfortable.
You will feel that she has every answer that you are seeking.
Even if your mother can’t help you with the issue that you want her to, her response will always encourage you to find the right answers.
“I love you, mom.”
Think about it, is your communication with your boyfriend effective as the conversation he has with his mother?
If your conversation is not at that level then you should change the way you communicate with him.
Effective communication with your partner can help you solve so many problems with ease.
Your boyfriend is too attached to his mother because the communication he has with her is always captivating.
Her mother is someone who motivates him and encourages him to tackle different issues that he faces.
That is why he is too attached to her because he gains so much from her than you.
His mother is someone that explains things to him, someone who keeps the conversation going with him and she asks so many questions to know what your boyfriend is going through.
The way you talk to someone is what can either make them want to talk to you every time or walk away from you.
So, if you haven’t been maintaining effective communication with your boyfriend and he spends most of his time talking to his mom then you know why he is too attached to her.
Her mother is doing something that you don’t do.
If you want your boyfriend not to be too attached to his mother do the things that she does.
The romantic connection that the two of you have and the communication you will keep going with is what will pull him closer to you.
This will detach him from his mother. If this is something you haven’t been doing then I encourage you to change that.
Talk to your boyfriend often, ask him questions, listen to him and always explain things to him.
Don’t hold anything back if you feel it will make your boyfriend happy when you talk about it.
This is what will make him want to talk to you so much and in turn, he will be too attached to you instead of his mother.
3. Encourage him to open up to you about his problems.
Your boyfriend is too attached to his mother because he is especially connected to her.
He feels free to open up to his mother about anything that he faces during the day.
His mother allows him and encourages him to talk about his problems.
Is this something that you are doing?
If you don’t encourage him to talk about his problems, this could be the reason why he is too attached to his mom.
When you share all your problems with someone for a while you will end up developing a certain connection.
A connection that is very hard to cut off. I know you can see it through your boyfriend and his mom.
This connection that your boyfriend has with his mom, can even be stronger between you and him.
The romantic connection that you have will enhance this connection and instead of being too attached to his mom, he will be too attached to you.
What you should start doing to detach your boyfriend from his mother is to encourage him to open up to you about his problems.
Don’t complain that he always tells you about his issues, just listen to him and encourage him to talk about them with you.
Even if you have no way to help him out with those problems, you should just listen to him.
Don’t cut him short when he is telling you about his problems. Also, don’t bring your problems in between his statements and this will give him a chance to get everything out.
He will pour all his heart out to you, and you will always be the first person that he wants to talk to whenever there is something wrong with his projects.
The more he shares with you his problems the more he will become attached to you and he will pull away from his mother.
If you haven’t been encouraging your boyfriend to open up to you about his problems then this is something you should do.
It may take time but, I assure you it will detach him from his mother.
4. Be the first person to help him solve his problems.
Let me start this section of this article by sharing with you an example that you can relate to.
You have two friends, Lilian and Lucy. Lilian and Lucy are both close to you, they are there when you need them and they always try their best to make you happy.
But out of these two friends, Lilian is always the first person to solve any problems that you bring to her.
While Lucy is the friend who will take ages to help you solve a single problem.
Who will you prefer to hang out with the most? Is it Lilian or Lucy?
I know you will choose Lilian because you find her caring and she is someone who will always do everything to ensure you are happy.
On the other hand, you will rarely hang out with Lucy since she doesn’t help you solve your problems as Lilian does.
By hanging out so much with Lilian, you will end up getting too attached to her than Lucy.
This whole example relates to the situation that you are trying to solve.
Your boyfriend is too attached to his mother because she is always the first person to help him solve any problems that he has.
He prefers hanging out so much with his mother because his mother always puts him first.
When your boyfriend goes with any problems to her, she will always find a means to tackle them as fast as possible.
And that is why your boyfriend is too attached to her simply because he benefits more from her than you.
If you want to detach your boyfriend from his mom, you have to be on the front line solving his problems.
When your boyfriend has an issue that needs to be handled, don’t let him go to his mom.
Overtake that issue and tackle it for him. As time goes by your boyfriend will get used to the fact that you are always the first person who solves his problems.
He will eventually find no need to go to his mom for any issues.
And gradually, he will be detached from his mother and he will be too attached to you.
This is not an easy thing to do, but if you want to make your boyfriend attached to you and not his mother this is a sacrifice you need to make.
It’s human nature to lean on the people who help you the most.
Think about it and you will find out that this is the perfect way to detach your boyfriend from his mother.
5. Let him know how you feel about him being too attached to his mom.
When things are not working the way you expect them after doing all the tips I have shared with you, then you will have no choice but to talk to your boyfriend.
You will have to let him know how you feel about what he is doing.
It can be that he thinks he doing the right thing and that is why he doesn’t think of detaching himself from his mother.
If you were him, would you feel guilty to be too attached to your mom?
You would have felt that you are doing the right thing and this is what will make you continue to do it.
Let your boyfriend that you feel left out since he is too attached to his mom.
Ask him to let you treat him instead of giving all his attention to his mother.
If your boyfriend cares about you and sees that what he does affects you negatively then he will gradually detach himself from his mother.
He will let you handle him instead of his mother.
So, if you haven’t talked to him about it then you should make the effort to do it.
And this is the only thing that will stop him from being too attached to his mother.
If your boyfriend doesn’t care about you and he doesn’t want to listen to what you tell him then you should distance yourself from him.
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This is what will let you know if he still cares about you or not.
If he still cares about you he will have no choice but to get back to you and apologize for what he has been doing.
But if he won’t bother getting back to you then know that he doesn’t care about you.
You should probably walk away from him because he is taking you for granted.
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If your boyfriend is too attached to his mother you should first find out that is so.
There must be something that you don’t do right and that is why he is too attached to his mother and not you.
Once you find out why he is too attached to his mother, you should use those specific reasons to come up with a specific solution to this problem.
If you have tried everything and your boyfriend doesn’t seem to detach himself from his mother, you should talk to him about this.
Let him know that you are not happy and comfortable with the attachment that he has with his mother.
Explain to him how it makes you feel. Don’t hold anything back if you want him to make a change.
If your boyfriend cares about you, he will do everything to make you happy.
Remember as you are doing this, don’t say anything bad that will result in a conflict between you and him.
This is a very sensitive issue and you should be so careful about the choice of words you use.
I hope all the tips I have shared with you will help you solve this issue.
Thanks for reading, if you have any questions leave your comment. See you in my next article.
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