My Boyfriend Wants Me To Pay Him Back: Do This

If your boyfriend wants you to pay him back this is what you should do. In this article, I will share with you what to do when your boyfriend wants you to pay him back.

 

The way you perceive supporting your partner financially, may not be the same way your boyfriend perceives it.

 

And if your boyfriend wants you to pay him back after he gives you his money then there is a reason why he does that.

 

For instance, you may support your partner financially but you will never ask him to refund you your money.

 

Your boyfriend may be asking you to pay him back after he gave his money because the thinks that it’s the right thing to do.

 

So, in this article, I will share with you how you should approach this issue so that you don’t turn this into a conflict.

 

What to do when your boyfriend wants you to pay him back

1. Find out why he wants you to pay him back.

if your boyfriend helped you financially but now he wants you to pay him back, there is a reason for that.

 

There is a reason why he wants you to pay him back after he helped you.

 

It can be that he helped you to clear your bills and now he wants you to pay him back so that he can clear his.

 

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So, if your boyfriend wants you to pay him back there is a reason why he does that.

 

I know you expected that when he has helped you financially he is supposed to forget about the money he spent on you.

 

And this is what most guys do. I find it hard to ask my girlfriend to pay me back after I have helped her out.

 

Your boyfriend may not have the same feelings as I do.

 

Also, sometimes it is not about what your boyfriend feels, there are situations that he may be in and that is why he wants you to pay him back.

 

Your boyfriend knows that if he asks you to pay him back, you will find any means to do it.

 

It will feel that it’s an obligation to pay him back since he helped you. This is something that he knows you will do for sure and that is why he wants you to pay him back.

 

But if he says he needs your financial help, it can be that he thinks you will never offer to help him out and that is why he wants you to pay him back.

 

He wants to use the money to cover his bills and pay for things since he knows you won’t help him with that.

 

Also, it can be that your boyfriend gave you money, but his main intention was that you are going to pay him back after you are done with the issue that you were doing.

 

So, if your boyfriend gave you money and he told you in advance that you will have to pay him back later, there is no problem with that.

 

The good thing is that he gave you heads-up that he will need you to pay him back after you are done with clearing the expenses you have on your end.

 

But if he never told you about refunding him his money, and now he wants you to pay him back then there is an issue.

 

And I will share with you how to approach this issue in the same article.

 

If your boyfriend wants you to pay him back simply because he needs the money for something crucial then you should pay him back if you have the money.

 

Your boyfriend may be having issues clearing his bills and he doesn’t want to ask you to pay his bills and that is why he wants you to pay him back.

 

He knows that if you give him the money that he helped you with, he will be able to clear his bills.

 

Your boyfriend doesn’t want to ask you to pay him the bills.

 

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If you know that your boyfriend is struggling financially, you should understand his situation when he asks you to pay him back.

 

He truly needs that money and that is why he wants you to pay him back.

 

The truth is that, if he was financial stable then he wouldn’t have asked you to pay him back.

 

Anyway, to why he wants you to pay him back, just ask him why he wants you to do it.

 

The answer that he will give you will cover it all.

 

2. If he truly needs the money then you should pay him back.

If your boyfriend wants you to pay him back and you know that he truly needs that money then you should do it.

 

Pay him back his money if you have the means to do it. Your boyfriend may not be in a good financial position and that is why he wants you to pay him back.

 

If he wasn’t in any financial issues, he wouldn’t have asked you to pay him back.

 

He would have just paid his bills using the other cash that he has.

 

Don’t hold his money if you know that your boyfriend is struggling financially.

 

It can be that the moment he gave you money for a certain need, you messed up his budget and he wants you to take care of it.

 

He asking you to do that since he knows you can do it. Otherwise, he wouldn’t have asked you to pay him back.

 

So, if you know that your boyfriend truly needs that money then you should pay him back.

 

There is nothing wrong he is doing by asking you to pay him back. He is not using you for money.

 

What he needs is the money that he helped you with.

 

On the other hand, if you found out that he needs you to pay him back and he insists on it then you should do it.

 

Even if you feel that he doesn’t truly need the money.

 

He may be doing this to pass a message to you. He wants you to understand that if he gives you money, then you should know that you owe him.

 

This may be the message he is trying to convey, and that is why he wants you to pay him back.

 

3. Don’t hold a grudge against him by asking you to pay him back.

When your boyfriend wants you to pay him back you may feel bad about it.

 

When you think about it, you have never asked him to pay you back after you spent $100 on him.

 

He only spent half of the money you spent on him and now he wants you to pay him back.

 

This may bring about a negative feeling and you might even start taking things personally.

 

You may end up telling yourself that you will never spend money on him again if he asks you to pay him back after you have supported him.

 

Do you know that this can result in conflict? And you will always find yourselves pulling away from supporting each other financially.

 

The moment you will stop supporting each other financially simply because of the grudge you made against him, it will wreck your relationship into pieces.

 

When your boyfriend founds out that you no longer want to support him financially simply because he asks you to pay him back, he will also stop supporting you.

 

This is what will divide you, and that is the point where the money issues will break you into pieces.

 

So, if your boyfriend wants you to pay him back, don’t perceive it negatively.

 

Convince yourself that your boyfriend truly needs the money and that is why he asks you to pay him back.

 

This is what will set the peace between the two of you.

 

When you think of it this way then you will always be on the good side with each other.

 

There will be no negative tension that will raise between the two of you.

 

And this issue of you paying him back will never bring any negative tension between the two of you.

 

Play it cool, that is the term I would use to describe how you should handle what your boyfriend wants you to do.

 

4. Talk to him about how you feel about him asking you to pay him back.

If your boyfriend wants you to pay him back and this is something that brought about negative tension between the two of you then you should talk to him about it.

 

Don’t keep silent about it. Let your boyfriend know how you feel about it.

 

Tell him everything that you feel so that you can ease this tension.

 

The truth is that, if he asks you to pay him back and it’s not something that you expected him to do, it will bring these negative feelings.

 

But if he could have told you in advance that you will pay him the money he gives you, this wouldn’t have been an issue.

 

So, talk to him about how you feel and listen to what he will say.

 

Also, let him know that if he expects you to pay him back after he has helped you financially he should give heads up about it.

 

Don’t be afraid to ask him questions like; do you want us to owe each other after supporting each other financially? Would you feel happy if I ask you to pay me back all the money that I spent on you?

 

Some of the answers that he will give you, are what will give you a clue on how your boyfriend perceives the issue of supporting each other financially.

 

Hey! If your boyfriend wants you to owe each other after helping each other then so be it.

 

Lastly…

 

If your boyfriend wants you to pay him back then you should do it if you know that he is in a bad financial position.

 

Even when he truly doesn’t need the money and he asks you to pay him back you should do it, but keep in your mind that your boyfriend expects you to owe each other after supporting each other financially.

 

And this is how you should drive things, if he wants you to support him financially, you should also ask him to pay you back later.

 

This is how things should be between the two of you.

 

If that is the game he wants to pay then you should also play it that way.

 

But if you feel bad about what he asks you to do then you should talk to him about it.

 

Let him know what you feel and this will ease things between the two of you.

 

Also, talking to him will enable you to know what he expects when he gives you his money.

 

And this is what will eliminate the awkwardness between the two of you.

 

Thank you so much for reading, if you have any questions leave your comment. See you in my next piece.

 

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