Why He Wants You To Be Just Friends (+What To Do)

If your boyfriend wants you to be just friends, you don’t know why prefers it that way and you don’t know what to do about then this is the article you should read.

 

In this article, I will share with you several reasons why your boyfriend wants you to be just friends and what you can do to change his mind.

 

What I usually know about relationships is that when your partner changes it’s usually due to something that is either affecting him/her internal or external.

 

This means that there is always a way to try to make things work. So, if you are so much worried about this issue then I got you covered.

 

Without wasting time, let me jump straight into it.

 

Why your boyfriend wants you to be just friends;

1. He no longer wants to be in a relationship with you.

When your boyfriend no longer wants to be in a relationship with you the first thing he will do is disconnect himself from that relationship.

 

There are so many reasons why a guy may want to end a relationship.

 

If you want to know them all then check out the article from my other website.

 

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The moment a guy chooses to end the relationship for various reasons he will not want to be with you.

 

He will come up with an excuse just to cut you off from his life or change the status of the relationship.

 

In this case, your boyfriend is changing the status of the relationship by changing it to friendship.

 

When a guy wants to end a relationship he will come up with so many excuses.

 

The way he will handle you will never be the same again and this will make you notice that there is something wrong.

 

Let me share with you several signs you will come across when your boyfriend wants to end the relationship.

 

Signs your boyfriend wants to end the relationship;

 

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There are so many signs I could have shared with you in this article, unfortunately, I’m writing about another topic.

 

If you come across any of these signs from your boyfriend then know that he just wants you to be friends because he wants to end the relationship.

 

It can be that he is no longer in love with you or he is just exhausted from being in that relationship with you.

 

2. He is no longer in love with you.

Your boyfriend wants you to be friends simply because he no longer loves you.

 

The way your boyfriend feels about you is what will either make the relationship move forward or fail.

 

There could be thousands of reasons why a guy may want to end a relationship.

 

But he will never do it if he has only one reason to hold on to the relationship.

 

And that is love.

 

When your boyfriend truly loves you no matter what happens he will never want to let go of the relationship.

 

You will get into a fight and he will work things out with you.

 

He will distance himself from you for days but he will end up coming back to you.

 

Through the highs and lows, your boyfriend will stick with you no matter what happens.

 

This will all happen because of love.

 

The moment there is no love between the two of you then that relationship will never survive through harsh conditions.

 

A single mistake from you can make your boyfriend want to end the relationship.

 

He will always threaten to walk away when you do any mistakes.

 

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If this is something you have come across then know that your boyfriend doesn’t love you.

 

He no longer feels you and that is why he wants you to be friends.

 

So, if your boyfriend wants you to be just friends then know that he no longer loves you.

 

If he did love you then this is something that he wouldn’t have thought of at all.

 

3. The relationship feels like a friendship to him.

This is another reason why your boyfriend wants you to be friends.

 

It can be that your boyfriend finds the relationship as a friendship.

 

He doesn’t feel the romantic side of things between the two of you.

 

The only thing he can feel is the friendship.

 

Trust me, a relationship can turn into friendship. I have seen it happen.

 

You may be so much in love with someone and later on, things between the two of you change completely.

 

The connection between the two of you decreases, you are no longer excited to be around each other anymore, you all fail to put effort into the relationship and things between the two of you become complicated.

 

This is usually brought about by several things in your relationship.

 

If you handled your boyfriend like a friend, you never put effort to be intimate with him, you never initiated romantic moves with him and he never did it too and you all never committed to each other then this could have been the main reason that the relationship felt like a friendship to him.

 

And that is why he wants you to be just friends.

 

And when your boyfriend no longer feels the romantic spark with you he will want to cut himself off from that relationship.

 

Your boyfriend will withdraw from the relationship because he no longer feels the same for you.

 

Nothing is exciting between the two of you that goes on and that is why your boyfriend wants you to be friends.

 

If the relationship feels like friendship to your boyfriend then the only thing he will want it to be is a friendship.

 

He won’t find the need to keep on pretending you are in a romantic relationship yet nothing of that is happening between the two of you.

 

So, when your boyfriend feels that the relationship between the two of you feels like a friendship because of how you have been handling each other then he will want it to be a friendship.

 

And this is the reason why your boyfriend wants you to be just friends.

 

4. He has met someone else.

This may be one of the reasons why your boyfriend wants you to be friends.

 

The moment your boyfriend is in love with someone else and you are no longer on his list he will find a way to end the relationship with you.

 

If your boyfriend out of nowhere wants you to be friends yet the relationship between the two of you is on good terms then know that he met someone else.

 

He met someone else and he fell in love with her and that is why he wants to find an excuse to disconnect himself from you romantically.

 

It can be that your boyfriend doesn’t want to hurt you and that is why he wants you to be friends.

 

He knew leaving you at once for the other person that he met will wreck you down into pieces.

 

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The moment a guy is in love with someone else he will find a reason to end the relationship.

 

It’s very hard for men to multi-task. When a man has his attention pulled by another person it will be very hard for him to give it to you.

 

And your boyfriend knows that if he continues to be in a relationship with you it will be very hard for him to enjoy his relationship with the other girl that he met.

 

This is why your boyfriend wants you to be just friends so that he can focus all his attention, energy and time on the person he fell in love with recently.

 

A guy can fall love in love with someone else and lose interest in the first person he was dating.

 

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So, if your boyfriend suddenly wants you to be friends then know that he met someone else and that is why he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

 

He knows this is the best way to disconnect himself from you.

 

5. He is not happy being with you.

It’s very hard for someone to stick to a relationship that doesn’t make them happy.

 

Your boyfriend wants you to be friends because he is not happy with you.

 

He is not fulfilled and that is why he wants to change the status of your relationship.

 

When a guy is not happy with you it will just be hard for him to be with you.

 

His motivation and effort in building that relationship will fade and the way he will handle you will clearly show how he feels about you.

 

As you know, we all enter relationships in search of happiness.

 

When we don’t get what we are searching for in relationships we will want to try to find it somewhere else.

 

This may be the case with your boyfriend and that is why he wants you to be friends.

 

Your boyfriend is not happy with you, he is not happy with the progress of the relationship and this is the reason that makes him want to change the relationship into a friendship.

 

There are several signs that you will come across when your boyfriend is not happy to be in a relationship with you.

 

If you came across any of these signs before he asked you to be friends then know that is the reason behind this.

 

Signs your boyfriend is not happy being with you;

  • Your boyfriend doesn’t put effort into the relationship.
  • He is demotivated to work on anything that will contribute to the growth of the relationship.
  • He is always complaining about everything you do.
  • Your boyfriend pushes you away most of the time.
  • He rarely spends his time with you.
  • He constantly picks fights with you for no reason.
  • He doesn’t treat you nicely.
  • He is no longer afraid to lose you.
  • He tells you straight to your face that he is not happy with you.

 

These are some of the signs that show that your boyfriend is not happy with you.

 

If you came across any of these signs before your boyfriend wanted you to be friends then know that it has something to do with his happiness.

 

6. You don’t meet his expectations.

This is another reason why your boyfriend wants you to be friends.

 

We all have expectations, right? Everything we do in our lives we always expect it to turn into something else.

 

You are working hard on your job or career so that it pays off in the future.

 

This is the same thing that happens when all of us enter relationships.

 

The moment you expect so much from someone or something and you end up failing to get it then this will make you unhappy.

 

You will feel frustrated because none of your expectations was met.

 

So, if your boyfriend was expecting so much from you before you started dating and as you continued dating none of his expectations has been met then this might be the main reason why he wants you to be friends.

 

You never met his expectations and that is what made him unhappy in that relationship and now he wants to disconnect himself from you.

 

If your boyfriend has unrealistic expectations of the relationship then this could be the main reason why he wants you to be friends.

 

We all know that unrealistic expectations can’t be accomplished.

 

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Also, it can be that your boyfriend expected you to be a certain type of girl and when he started dating you he found out that you are not the kind of person he thought you were.

 

This is another thing that can turn someone off for good.

 

The moment you notice that the person you fell in love with is not the person he/she claims he/she is then you will have no choice but to let go of him or her.

 

So, if your boyfriend was expecting anything from you or the relationship and since he started dating you none have been met then this is the main reason why he wants you to be just friends.

 

7. The relationship doesn’t feel right for him.

This is another reason why your boyfriend wants you to be friends.

 

If the relationship doesn’t feel right to your boyfriend he will want to end it.

 

The moment a guy is in a relationship with you and he feels that things between the two of you don’t click then he will want to end the relationship.

 

For instance, if you were friends before and you decide to change that and after you have started dating the vibe between the two of you is off then your boyfriend will want to change this situation.

 

I know you would have done the same.

 

If you are in a relationship with someone even if you love them and you don’t feel like you connect at a level that you want then you will not want to force yourself into that relationship.

 

It can be that you and your boyfriend love each other very much but things between the two of you don’t seem to connect.

 

This is something that can happen to anyone. If you are great friends with someone it doesn’t mean that your relationship with them will feel amazing.

 

So, if your boyfriend tried to process the feeling between the two of you and he felt that nothing seems to be working the way he wants then this could be the reason why he wants you to be just friends.

 

The relationship between the two of you doesn’t feel right for him and that is why he wants it to end.

 

Also, it can be that your boyfriend never felt comfortable being in a relationship with you and that is why he thought it would be best if you continue being friends.

 

What to do when your boyfriend wants you to be just friends;

1. Find out why he wants you to be just friends.

When your boyfriend wants you to be friends and this is something that you are not happy about then you have to do something about it.

 

If you care about the relationship and you want it to go on then you will have to fight for it.

 

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The moment your boyfriend says he wants you to be friends, don’t just agree with him if you still want that relationship to go.

 

You have to know that at one point your boyfriend was in love with you and that is why you dated for a while.

 

This means you can convince him to continue being in a relationship than being friends.

 

The first thing you need to do when your boyfriend wants you to be friends is to find out why he wants you to be friends.

 

The only way to know why he wants you to be just friends is to talk to him.

 

Confront him and ask him why he wants you to be friends.

 

The reasons that he will give you are what will enable you to convince him to continue being in a relationship with you.

 

What he will tell you after you have asked him that question is what you will use to fix this issue.

 

2. Fix anything fixable.

This is what to do next when your boyfriend wants you to be friends after dating for a while.

 

Now that you have all the reasons in your hands it is time to start fixing anything that you can fix.

 

This means you will have to work on things that can you can control and try to convince him to change his mind.

 

The things that you can fix are the ones that are brought about by you.

 

For instance, if your boyfriend told you that he wants you to be friends because you handle him like a friend then this is something that can be fixed.

 

The only thing you will have to do is to change how you handle him, spice things up and rekindle the spark in that relationship.

 

If he wants you to be just friends simply because he wants to end the relationship due to something that you can change then let him know that you can fix it.

 

Try as much as you can to fix anything that you can to convince him to stay with you.

 

When you eliminate the things that make him want to be friends with you then you will have a chance of changing his mind about this issue.

 

For instance, if you know that he wants you to be friends simply because he is not happy because of something that you can change then do it.

 

There are some things that you can’t fix. These are the things that you can’t control no matter what you will do.

 

Things that are within him will be hard for you to fix and you will have no choice but let him go.

 

If the way he feels about you is no longer the same, he has made up his mind that he wants you to be friends, he fell in love with someone else and you are not the kind of person he wanted to be with.

 

These are some of the things that you can’t fix, but this doesn’t mean you will have to give up on him yet.

 

3. Make him interested in you once again.

When your boyfriend wants you to be just friends then know that it’s because of how he feels about you.

 

His interest in you is fading and that is why he wants you to be friends.

 

This has something to do with how he feels about you but this doesn’t mean you can’t try to give it a shot.

 

The moment he tells you he wants you to be just friends the first thing to do is to try to keep him around.

 

Instead of you being demotivated and stopping putting effort into that relationship, this is the time for you to step your foot on the gas.

 

You still have a good chance to change his mind if you make him see the things he will miss from you when you are just friends.

 

So, to change his mind you will have to do things for him that will make him interested in you again.

 

There are several things you can do to make a guy interested in you again.

 

Try these things and see how things will work out between the two of you.

 

How to make a guy interested in you again;

  • Spend more time with him.
  • Do for him the things he likes.
  • Get intimate with him and drive him nuts.
  • Be the kind of person he expects you to be.
  • Treat him in a way you have never done before.
  • Prioritize him in everything you do.
  • Show him what you can offer him.
  • Try to meet his expectations.
  • Make yourself super attractive to him.

 

These are some of the things you can do to make your boyfriend interested in you again.

 

When you try to do these things you might change his mind about wanting you to be friends because he will see what he will lose when he switches to that mode.

 

You have to be crazy sometimes if you want to keep a guy.

 

Make him realize what he is about to lose and you will always keep him.

 

4. Give him a reason not to let go.

If your boyfriend wants you to be just friends and this is something that you don’t want it to happen then you will have to do something about it.

 

Do you still want him to be your boyfriend? If you do, you have to give him a reason why he should continue to be in a relationship with you.

 

Give him the reason why you want him to be in a relationship with you and this might make him change his mind.

 

The only thing I would advise you to do here is to find out what he cares about the most.

 

Use what he cares about the most to make him stick to you.

 

If you have been with him for a while then you know what he cares about, you know what he wants to do with his life and you know what makes him tick.

 

Use your knowledge of him to make him change his mind about you.

 

If he cares about his career so much then do something about it that will make him stick to you.

 

Even if he won’t stick with you because of love but as time goes by his interest in you will be back.

 

Love changes over time.

 

Do something that will give him a reason not to let you go even if he wants to.

 

And when you get it right on the things he cares about then you will have it easy.

 

The moment your boyfriend sees that you did something that he cares about the most in his whole life then this will give him a reason not to let go of you.

 

Take your time to find out what it’s and do it and you will thank me later.

 

5. Let him know what the relationship means to you.

If your boyfriend wants you to be friends then don’t keep silent about it.

 

Don’t just get emotionally and distance yourself from him simply because he wants to disconnect himself from you.

 

The words that you will say to him also can change his mind about what he is about to do.

 

Sit down with him and open up to him. Let him know how you feel about him before you decide to let him do what he wants to.

 

This is the part where you should let him know how you feel about it and what will happen when you become friends.

 

If you need him to be with you then you won’t lack something intriguing to say to him.

 

Say everything you can to keep him around.

 

The moment you open up your heart and tell him everything you feel for him and what the relationship means to you then you will have to let him decide what he feels is right for him.

 

6. Let him do what he feels is right for him.

After you have done all the things I have shared with you then you should let him do what he feels is right for him.

 

Don’t stretch too hard trying to keep him around to an extent of begging him and degrading yourself before him.

 

If you have done everything that you are supposed to the only thing you can do is to wait for his response.

 

The moment he tells you that he wants you to be friends even after you have tried everything then you should let him go.

 

This shows that he no longer feels the same for you. If you keep forcing him to be with you then you will only be hurting yourself.

 

Don’t force yourself on someone who doesn’t feel the same for you.

 

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Lastly…

 

When your boyfriend wants you to be friends and you have tried everything to change his mind and nothing works then you should let him go.

 

You can’t do anything to change his mind, it can be that he already made up his mind about ending that relationship.

 

If you can’t do anything to change his mind about what he feels for you then know that he is done with you.

 

The only thing you can do is to wish him well.

 

I know it hurts letting someone you love walk away but some things are always out of our control.

 

If someone is no longer in love with you no matter what you will do you will never change their minds

 

The best thing to do when someone doesn’t feel the same for you is to let them go before they hurt you.

 

If he wants you to be friends and that is what he insists on then you can either choose to be friends with him or kick him out of your life.

 

Thanks for reading, if you have any questions leave your comment. See you in my next article.

 

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