If You Don’t Know What You Want From Your Relationship (Do This)

If you are in a relationship and you don’t know what you want from it then this is what you can do.

Not knowing what you want from your relationship it can be so devastating. This can make you lose touch with what matters to you. 

 

What do you understand by not knowing what you want from your relationship? 

When someone doesn’t know what he or she wants from a relationship it means that he or she doesn’t know the reason why he or she entered that relationship. 

 

The moment an individual enters a relationship without a definite goal and without an idea why in the first place he or she chooses to enter that relationship then he or she doesn’t know what he or she wants from it. 

 

The other thing can also be that someone isn’t aware of what he or she should do with the relationship that he or she chooses to indulge herself or himself in. 

 

In most cases, these people who don’t know what they want from a relationship is that they entered the relationships just because of external influences. 

 

The idea of them being in a relationship never came from them. It might be that their friends made them make such kind of decision or it can be by peer pressure. 

 

When you are surrounded by your friends who are in relationships and they keep on pressuring you to find someone then you will eventually find yourself doing that. 

 

At the moment this happens then you will have no clear idea of what you should expect, what you need from that relationship because you did it to fit in a certain group. 

 

In such a situation you will never have time to know the person you want to be in a relationship with. 

 

You will have no time to think through what you want from such a relationship and this can be very difficult to have an idea where you are heading with your life. 

Is it okay to not know what you want in a relationship?

Sometimes it is okay not to know what you want in a relationship because it can be very confusing to figure out what you want to do with your love life. This is especially if you are new in the field of romantic relationships

 

If you have never dated before probably what you know about a relationship is all about romance, sex, dates and spending time together. 

 

When you repeat this cycle of actions you will eventually feel that something is missing in that relationship. You will feel that you completely don’t know what to do next with that relationship. 

 

This can stress you and make you feel less of yourself. Being in a relationship and not knowing what to do with it can make you be stressed. 

 

You might also have been in different relationships and still fail to figure out what you want from your relationship. 

 

A relationship is more than just love and sex, you need something more from it than just an intimate connection.

 

So, it’s okay not to know what you want from a relationship because it takes time before you realize what you are after. 

 

What to do when you don’t know what you want in a relationship?

If you don’t know what you want in a relationship then you have to do something about it before you waste your time and resources. 

 

It’s very bad to be in a relationship and to have no clue of what you want from that relationship. 

 

This is what to do when you don’t know what you in a relationship;

 

1. Find the reason why you entered the relationship. 

If you don’t know what you want from a relationship then sit down and think critically about why you found yourself in that relationship. 

 

Did you enter the relationship to push time? Did you love that person truly or it was just lust? Were you forced to be in that relationship? Have you been influenced to date that person? 

 

All these questions will help you to come up with the right answer for you to know what you want from that relationship. 

 

If you entered that relationship mainly because you were influenced by your friends then you will eventually know that you did not need that relationship. 

 

When you don’t need something then you will never know what you want from it. 

 

The other thing is that if you entered that relationship mainly because you are confused between love and lust then you will end up being stranded on not knowing what you want from that relationship if lust has faded.

 

The moment you find the reason why you entered that relationship then you can figure out what you want from it. 

 

2. Ask yourself if you are ready for a relationship. 

If you don’t know what you want in a relationship then it is probably obvious that you aren’t ready for a relationship. 

 

In most cases, you will never know what you want from someone or something if you were not ready for it. 

 

The moment you are ready to handle something then you would have already made everything clear and you will know exactly what you want from it. 

 

Being ready to deal with something earlier enough enables you to set the correct objectives for it. 

 

So, ask yourself if you were ready for that relationship or you just rushed into it because you had no alternative. 

 

If you come up with an answer that you were ready for that relationship and yet you don’t know what you want from it then start reevaluating the relationship at large. 

 

Check on your life and what you do, and think of how your relationship will connect to it all. The moment you will be able to fit your relationship into your lifestyle then you will eventually know what to do with your relationship. 

 

And if you have found out that you were not ready for that relationship and that is why you have no idea of what you want from it then I would advise you to end that relationship. 

 

This is because you will never take any significant step with that relationship other than wasting your precious time which will never be recovered. 

 

3. Give yourself a purpose and something that will guide you with that relationship. 

You can find meaning from something that had none. To do this you have to look at everything from a different angle. 

 

Now, that you are in a relationship and everything goes in a way that you expected it to. 

 

You are happy with the person you met but you have no idea what you want from that relationship. 

 

Search for a reason to make that relationship something solid in your life. Make it something that can impact your life positively. 

 

For instance, if you were not in a good shape because you used to jump from one relationship to another without caring. Your life was probably a mess because of that. 

 

Take this new relationship as your source of you shaping yourself better. Stick with that one person and let him or her teach you how you can be yourself and know to take care of others. 

 

The moment you get something positive from that relationship and it helps you become a version of yourself then you will have found a reason to hold on to that relationship. 

 

This will give you an idea of what you want from that relationship and it will guide your life. 

 

You can make meaning from something that it never had. 

 

4. Include your relationship in your life goals. 

This will guide you and help you to know what you want from a relationship. Include your relationship in your life goals. 

 

Think of what you want to do with your life. Do you have something to do with your life? I guess you do, that is why you are always looking for a way of making your lifestyle better. 

 

It’s obvious that at one point you never had an idea of what to do with your life but that never made you stop to search for the meaning of your life. 

 

This is the same case with a relationship if you have no idea of what you want in it. 

 

You can include your relationship in your life goals so that as your life expands and also your relationship fills in space. 

 

Let me say, you are aiming to be a manager at your workplace. You can also include your relationship in this goal.

 

You can say that, once you achieve this goal then you can move from a one-bedroom apartment with your partner to a two-bedroom apartment. 

 

Once you achieve this goal then you can take your partner for a vacation far away from where you stay. 

 

When you include your relationship in your life goals you will make it easier for yourself to set up what you want from your relationship. 

 

5. Talk to your lover and structure your relationship goals. 

 

Relationship goals are very significant to help couples know what they want from a relationship. So, talk to your partner and set your goals in that relationship. 

 

These goals will help you to know what you are after in that relationship, they will help you to be focused on what adds value to your relationship and it will make your relationship exciting. 

 

If you don’t know what you want with your relationship then it is probably clear that you don’t have any relationship goals. This is because relationship goals are only set by the people who know exactly what they want in a relationship. 

 

Sit down with your partner and structure your short-term and long-term goals that will keep you on the right path. 

 

Make these goals and try everything to make sure that you follow them strictly. 

 

This is because with these goals you can eventually find something worth fighting for in that relationship and you will, at last, have an idea of what you need from that relationship. 

 

6. Find someone you trust who is successful in handling his or her relationship for advice. 

If you have no idea what you want in your relationship and you have tried these ways that I have shared with you and still you have no luck then make a point of finding someone who will help you with that. 

 

When you are facing this situation then it means that you are not the only one with this problem. 

 

Many people have faced it too. So, find someone you trust, you can open up to and share with him or her the problems you are facing. 

 

If he or she is someone who has an idea on how to handle relationships then he or she will give you a way out. 

 

Don’t die alone with your problems. Open up and let people help you out. The good thing I’m here is you can also send talk to me I can help you out. 

 

Don’t be afraid to send me your email I will gladly help you with that. 

 

My final thought 

Being in a relationship and you don’t know anything about it it can be so stressful. If you are in such a condition then you will never go anywhere with that relationship. 

 

It will be very hard for you to know your way through the problems and challenges that you will be facing I’m your relationship. 

 

People can solve the problems they face in their relationships and stick to making the relationship better because they know what they want from that relationship. 

 

If they would have no idea of what they wanted from their relationships then they would have never thought of a way of saving them when they were falling apart. 

 

So, it is very important to know what you want in your relationship if you want it to last.

 

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