If your girlfriend doesn’t want to work then you have to do something about it if you want to have a great future with her.
You should not bother reading this article if you don’t think of settling down with her or having a future with her.
But if this is a girl you want to stick to then you have to do something about it because she will make your life a bit harder.
This is because if you won’t find a way to make her work then this means she will have to depend on you for everything.
And if you have a 9 to 5 job there is no way you will manage to handle her.
If you will manage then know that you will not be saving anything.
This is especially if she is financially unstable.
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With that much said, let me share with you what you can do to convince her to work.
What to do when your girlfriend doesn’t want to work;
1. Find out why she doesn’t want to work.
If your girlfriend doesn’t want to work the first thing you should do is to find out why she doesn’t want to.
Don’t storm on her and start talking rudely to her and telling her things that will hurt her feelings.
If you want her to work then you have to approach this issue maturely.
Try to understand why she doesn’t want to work and be in her shoes for a minute.
And you will be able to do this if you will find out the reasons why she doesn’t want to work.
Sit down with her and have a conversation about your relationship and when things are too deep start to ask her why she doesn’t want to work.
This is the best approach you should use.
When you go directly to her and start asking her why she doesn’t want to work then she will think you are judging her on the decision she made.
This will make her think that you already have your theories as to why she doesn’t want to work.
And this will not end well for you.
The moment she tells you why she doesn’t want to work then take note of the issues she is telling you because you are going to use them to help her work out this issue.
Once you have those reasons think of a way you can address them to her in a way she will feel there is a solution for that issue.
And this takes us to the next section.
2. Let her know why working is better for your relationship.
After you have heard from her about why she doesn’t want to work don’t give her a fix to the issues she told you about.
The first thing you have to do is give her a reason why you think she should work.
Give her something that will motivate her to do something about her work life.
And you will manipulate her wisely by using the reasons she gave you and fixing them in your relationship.
If she cares about the relationship then she will eventually see the need for her to work.
Let her know why working will be something amazing for your relationship.
Talk of the things you are planning, talk about the amazing restaurants you would like to go to, talk of the vacation you want to have in Maldives and talk of the future that you are hoping to have.
These are some of the things that will show her the importance of her and you working.
The moment you enlighten her about this, she will be fully motivated to do anything to achieve the things you are hoping for.
And this will give you a good stand to tackle this issue. This will make it easier for you to handle her.
You won’t have to push her to do the necessary thing because she knows what benefit she will get from working.
3. Teach her to be independent.
The next thing you should do is to make her master the art of being an independent lady.
If she doesn’t want to work this is clear that she depends on you for most of her needs.
Unless she is a girl from a royal family. The fact that you are here in this article shows that she isn’t of that type.
Take your time to teach her how to be independent and this will make her yearn to rely on herself.
This will make her feel the need to stand on her own.
You can start by making her rely on herself for the small things that she wants.
Instead of you doing the small issues for her, let her handle them on her own.
Let her budget the things you will need in your house, let her plan any occasions you usually have and let her try to find solutions for different problems in your apartment.
You will have to help her with that but only when you find that she is stranded.
The moment she will be able to do these types of things and achieves them this will make her happy.
This will give her the concept that she doesn’t need to rely on you for her to do several things in that house.
The sweetness of the small success she gets will motivate her to do even something bigger.
She will feel the need to rely on herself on doing most of the things and this will make her independent.
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4. Show her the reality of your financial status.
The next thing for you to do now that she is an independent lady is to give her the reason to move out of her comfort zone.
When you give her a reason why she should work then she will have no option but to work.
I know you want your girlfriend to work so that she can support you on some of the things you want to do in that relationship.
If you had it all then you wouldn’t have been searching for a means to convince her to go to work.
The only thing that will motivate her is to show her the reality of your financial status.
Show her the bills you have to pay, the expenses of things you need in your apartment and the amount of money you earn per month.
Do some maths with her and show her the reality of things.
The moment she sees that your income can’t cover all the expenses then she will have no choice but to do something about it.
If your income covers all the expenses but you are left with nothing to save then let her know what if things change.
What if the pay cheque stops and that is what you depend on from month to month.
Let her see the reality of things on your financial status and this will make her work.
This will motivate her to want to work so that she can change the situation and support you.
Now that she is independent, she will not want to depend on you and she will know that she has to do something about your financial problems.
5. Motivate her to work.
After you have shown her the reality of things then you should keep motivating her to work.
The more you keep motivating her the more energy she will get to get out there and do something.
Especially, in the first two to three weeks you have to keep motivating her and congratulating her that she is doing a nice thing.
This is because things will not be easy for her.
If she is used to being in her comfort zone then this means she will find it hard to adapt to a working environment.
This is the part when you should take it easy on her and speak politely to her.
Help her in anything you can so that she doesn’t feel stuck.
And this will get her to work and this issue will be solved.
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6. Take necessary action according to her response.
If your girlfriend agrees with you and goes back to work then that is amazing for both of you and you should keep motivating her and telling her why you all need to work.
On the other hand, if she won’t want to work even after trying everything I have shared with you in this article then you will have to do something about it.
You have to be real with her about how you feel about this issue. Let her know what is at stake if she doesn’t want to work.
If she won’t listen to you then you will have to end the relationship with her because there is no future between the two of you.
She will be a burden to you and she will keep dragging you behind.
The only option you will have is to let her go.
If you have tried everything I have shared with you and your girlfriend still doesn’t want to work then know that she is lazy and unmotivated.
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If that won’t change her then the only option you will have is to end the relationship.
There is no bright future you will have with her if she is not willing to put in the effort to change your financial status.
For you to be financially independent both of you have to work hard on achieving it.
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If your girlfriend won’t support you to change your financial status then you will have no option but to end the relationship.
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