If your girlfriend is a Muslim and you aren’t then this is the right article for you. In this article, I will share with you some of the things you need to know for you to know how to handle your relationship with her.
There is no way your relationship with her will work if you won’t consider the things I’m going to share with you.
What I know is that love doesn’t care about religion or any beliefs that you are accustomed to. But, for your relationship to last longer, you need to know what I’m about to share with you.
If your girlfriend is a Muslim and you are not then don’t make it a big deal as long as she is okay with being in a relationship with you. The only thing you should focus on is how to understand her and get to know what she needs from you.
Understanding your girlfriend is what will give your relationship a great chance of surviving and eventually turning into something in the future.
She is a Muslim, there are certain things she will expect from you… The things that she will want from you are what will determine if your relationship with her will work out or not.
There is some behaviour that you will come across from her that will make you hate her and even want to change her.
If you will hate some of the things she will be doing simply because she is too religious then you might end up losing interest in her. And this will be the result of you pulling away from her.
So, in this article, I will share with you some of the things she will require from you for your relationship to last.
The first thing that your Muslim girlfriend will want from you is respect, understanding of what she needs, and boundaries, she might want you to stop doing certain things if she is too religious and she might even hide you from her parents or family.
Don’t worry, I will explain everything you need to know in this article so that you can have an idea of how you will handle her successful.
Let me start talking about respect first, you have to understand respect is very significant for any relationship to last.
If there is no respect between the two of you there is no way your relationship will reach where you want it to.
You will just break up, it doesn’t matter when the girl you are dating is a Muslim, Christian or atheist.
So, if you have observed her and you know that she doesn’t want you to talk about nasty things, she doesn’t like it when you touch her frequently, she doesn’t allow you to smoke or drink and she wants you to handle her in a certain way then you should respect that.
All these things she might want from you are what will make your relationship whole. These are things that will make the two of you get along easily and you will be happy being around each other.
Don’t do anything you feel like simply because you are the MAN! And you have it all.
This will only end up messing up your relationship with her. She is a Muslim, she was raised in a way that is different and she is used to doing certain things in a certain way.
So, giving her the respect that she needs and doing the things that she wants you to and avoiding the things she hates, is the only way you will be able to keep her to yourself.
If you know that she doesn’t want you to do a certain thing because it’s opposite to what she believes in then don’t make a big deal about it.
As long as she doesn’t control you and make you do things that you don’t want to then do the things that show her that you respect her religion and the things she believes in.
This is the only way you will be peaceful with her. There is no way your relationship will be a mess.
If she wants you to do things that you aren’t comfortable with you have the right to talk to her.
Confront her, talk to her about what you feel, and let her know that you are not happy with certain things that she wants you to do and this will fix the issues between the two of you.
Don’t keep silent simply because you are afraid if you tell her the truth about what you feel about certain things she will break up with you.
If she is in love with you then there is no way she will pull herself away from you when you tell her about how you feel about certain things that she wants you to do.
Your girlfriend is a Muslim and you are not, this means there are some of the things she will need from you.
These things will be completely different from what you know or believe.
This part can get very complicated if you will not understand why she needs such kinds of things.
Your girlfriend will leave you from time to time to attend her prayers. You should know that Muslims pray 5 times a day. So, don’t expect to cuddle, watch movies and sleep with her or hang out with her for 24 hours.
There are times she will want to go to pray, she will need space from you after she has taken Wudhu (Cleanse herself). She will not allow you to touch her after she has cleansed herself of the najis ( impurities).
These are some of the things you will come across. So, when she wants to pray and she doesn’t allow you to touch her then understand her.
If she needs time to read Quran then you should let her do so. Let her do her religious duties without you making it a big deal.
She is a Muslim, she has to do the compulsory things that are obligated to her by her religion.
When you let her do her religious duties without you interfering with any of them then that is understanding what she needs.
She will find you so understanding and this is what will make her love you so much.
You will find that sometimes she will compromise some of the things she has to do for you though she is aware that she is doing the wrong thing.
So, get to understand what she needs, know the important things she needs from you, give her time to do her religious duties and get mad at her for doing them.
This is what will make your relationship with her last.
When I talk about boundaries; there is so much to discuss this issue.
You have to know that Muslims aren’t allowed to have sex before marriage.
I guess this goes to Christians too. Having sex before marriage is fornication, and this is punishable in countries that follow the Islamic Sharia (Islamic law).
So, if your girlfriend is a Muslim and she tells you that she doesn’t want to have sex with you before marriage you should understand that and respect it.
You chose to be with her. So, don’t force her to sleep with you and yet she is not willing to do that.
Respect her decisions, and only do it if she is willing to do it, but if she doesn’t want to have sex with you then don’t cross that boundary or do anything to take advantage of her.
Other Muslim girls aren’t that religious, they will be willing to go against what they believe in because they are not ready to wait that long.
But if your girlfriend is one of those Muslim girls that don’t want to go that way then you should respect that.
If you will be able to withstand what she wants from you then make a point of being honest with her. Let her know that you can’t do that instead of you cheating on her or taking advantage of her.
Don’t agree with what she wants if you know you can’t manage it.
If your girlfriend is a Muslim and you are not then don’t expect her to introduce you to her parents or family. Don’t be surprised when she decides to keep you and the relationship a secret.
You have to know that if her parents or family are strictly religious they will not allow her to date or get along with someone who is not a Muslim.
Also, it can be that she is even not allowed to date at all. She agreed to be with you because she loves you but her parents or family may not approve of that.
So, if she doesn’t introduce you to her family members or parents and she is hiding you don’t perceive that as a red flag.
She is only doing this because of how her parents or family will perceive her.
If you are thinking of turning your relationship with her into something big then you will have to convert to Islam.
That is the only way you will be able to meet her family or parents.
I will talk about the issue of you converting to Islam for your girlfriend in my next article.
You will see the link to the article at the bottom of this article if I will have published it.
If your girlfriend is a Muslim and you are not your relationship with her can work if you will be willing to do the things that she expects you to.
Understand that she is religious and there are some things she will not be able to do with you.
She will want you to give her time to pray, she might keep the relationship a secret, she will distance herself away from you during the Holy Month of Ramadhan and she might refuse to be intimate with you.
So, if you want your relationship with her to last you have to understand what she wants from you and avoid doing anything that goes against what she believes in.
This is the only way you will protect your relationship and make it last.
If you are thinking of marrying her then you should be ready to convert to Islam.
That’s all that I can share with you, if you have any questions leave your comment. Thanks for reading. See you in my next article.
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