If your girlfriend is not who you thought she was then this is what I would like you to know.
If you thought your girlfriend to be something else and you found out she is not then you are probably disappointed by that.
It’s okay to be disappointed if your girlfriend is not who you thought she was. I would be furious about it too.
In this article, I want to share with you some insights that will give you an idea and enlighten you on how you should perceive this issue.
The way you feel about this issue is what will determine the kind of action you will take about it.
There are two situations about this issue, we have the positive aspect and the negative one.
On which side do you dwell?
I will start talking about the negative aspect of things and the positive ones will follow on later.
If you thought your girlfriend to be an amazing person, loyal, understanding, hardworking, kind, loving and caring or something else and you later found out that she is not who you thought she was then you probably feel so bad about it.
The first thing you should understand is that she never told you that she is this and that. You just thought by the way you perceived her. She is not the one to be blamed on this issue. You are the one to blame yourself for not knowing her.
You rushed into the relationship with her and you later found out that she is not who you thought she was.
And that is why moving so fast in a relationship with someone you don’t know that well is always a bad idea.
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She is not who you thought she was because you never took the time to know her and understand the kind of person she was.
I’m not here to blame you, I just want to share with you what you can do about this situation.
If your girlfriend is not the person you thought she was (a nice person) then you should either choose to change her if you love her so much or leave her. Change her to the person you want her to be if you love her but if you don’t feel the same after finding out that she is not the person you thought she was then break up with her.
You should know that people can change in relationships.
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If you love her then I recommend you try your best to change her to be the kind of person you want her to be instead of blaming her for not being the kind of person you thought she was.
What I can tell you is that she will change if she loves you, she cares about the relationship and she is willing to change.
Make the effort in talking to her and let her know what you thought of her earlier before you started dating.
Let her see how amazing you thought of her and try to mould her to be the kind of person you thought she was.
This is what I can advise you to do.
On the other hand, if you loved her because you thought she was someone else then it’s obvious that you will never feel the same for her if you found out she is not the person you thought she was.
So, if you fell in love with her because you thought she was an amazing person and you later found out that she is not and you don’t feel like being around her anymore then I would advise you to break up with her.
There is no way you will be happy around her if you only fell in love with her knowing she was someone else and later on you found out she is not who you thought she was.
Let her know that you no longer feel the same since you found out that she is not the person you thought she was.
She will understand you because no one will force you to be with them except when they are toxic.
And if she is toxic then you should walk away from her.
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That was much on the negative side. I hope I have provided the value you are looking for. If not, don’t be afraid to leave your comment.
I always love to hear back from my readers.
Now, let me talk about the positive side.
If you thought your girlfriend to be a bad person and later on you found out that she is an incredible person then you should be grateful for that and celebrate your relationship with her. This is something great! If you expected bad things from her and you found good ones then you should be happy.
Unless you wanted to find her to be bad, which I know is not the case.
If you thought your girlfriend to be a bad person and you find out that she is not the person you thought she was then be grateful for that.
Change how you perceive her, put effort into your relationship and make it better.
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If your girlfriend is not who you thought she was and that thought is what made you fall in love with her then I would advise you to leave her if you can’t change how you perceive her.
But if you can change how you viewed her then it’s awesome. Keep building your relationship on the positive side.
Remember, we all always don’t get what we desire.
On the other side, if your girlfriend is not who you thought she was and this changed how you feel for her then there is nothing you can do about this but break up with her.
For instance, you thought she was a good person and that is why you fell in love with her and you found out that she is not then you will never feel the same for her.
Your feelings will be distorted and that relationship is not going to work. For a relationship to work perfectly, it mostly depends on how you perceive each other to be.
If you thought she was something else and she is not who you thought she was and you can change her to be what you thought she was then go ahead and try to change her.
That is all that I wanted to share with you. Thanks for reading, if you have any questions leave your comment, and I will see you, next time buddy.
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