Why Your Girlfriend Thinks You Are Using Her (+Do This)

If your girlfriend thinks you are using her then it’s because of a certain way you handle her. In this article, I will share with you several reasons why your girlfriend thinks you are using her.

 

For these reasons you will be able to do something and change how she perceives you.

 

You have to make her stop thinking that you are using her because this will mess up your relationship.

 

With that much said, let me share with you these reasons.

 

Why your girlfriend thinks you are using her;

1. You are only around her when you want something.

If your girlfriend thinks you are using her then this is the first reason behind that.

 

It can be that you don’t know you are doing it but your girlfriend sees it from that angle.

 

When you are around your girlfriend only when you want something from her then she will end up thinking that you are using her.

 

Take time and ask yourself if this is something you have been doing.

 

Are you only around her when you need something from her?

 

If you haven’t been spending time with her so much and you always show up when you need something from her then she will conclude that you are using her.

 

It can be that you are truly busy and that is why you don’t spend so much time with her.

 

When you need something you make an effort to meet her because you need to do that.

 

For you, it may be something normal and you don’t find it a big deal, but your girlfriend perceives it differently.

 

You think you are not using her, you think that you are busy and that is why you are not around her so much but she thinks you are using her.

 

The only time you show up at her door is when you need a favour from her.

 

Also, it can be that you only show up when you need to be intimate with her.

 

This is something that will make her think you are using her.

 

So, if you haven’t been around her for long but when you meet her you want something from her then this is the main reason why she thinks you are using her.

 

2. You walk away after being intimate with her.

If this is something you usually do then know that is the main reason why your girlfriend thinks you are using her.

 

The way you handle your girlfriend before and after being intimate with her matters a lot.

 

The act you are doing with her means a lot more to her than it may to you.

 

For you, it may be just a thing to get yourself a fix but your girlfriend takes it very deep within her.

 

That is what contributes to her feelings for you.

 

Women love it when they are given attention even after you have been intimate with them.

 

The attention you will give them after being intimate with them is what will make them feel special.

 

But if you always get intimate with your girlfriend and after that you don’t give her the attention you used to then she will conclude that you are just using her.

 

The moment you stop giving her your attention after being intimate with her the only thing she will think of is that you are satisfied and you no longer care about her.

 

If this is something you have been doing every time you get intimate with your girlfriend then know that it’s the main reason why she thinks you are using her.

 

After being intimate with your girlfriend you aren’t supposed to walk away immediately.

 

You have to be around her, cuddle, spoon, talk about what you feel and show her that you still value her even after being done with that act.

 

This will show her that you care about her and you need her.

 

But if you always walk away without doing anything or saying any word then know that your girlfriend thinks worse of you.

 

This is why she thinks you are using her.

 

3. You only call her when you need a favour from her.

Communication is a very important aspect of a relationship.

 

When you maintain communication with your girlfriend she will feel you care about her and the relationship at large.

 

The moment you will stop being in touch with her she will conclude that you don’t care about her.

 

So, if you stopped being in touch with her and you only reach out to her when you need a favour she will think that you are using her.

 

Your girlfriend expects you to maintain communication with her. And this is what will make her realize that you value her.

 

But if you only call or text her when you want something she will think that you are using her.

 

Why do you only call when you need a favour from her?

 

What is hindering you from maintaining the communication with her?

 

Anyway, the moment your friends only get in touch with you when they want something you will think that they are using you.

 

So, your girlfriend has the right to think that you are using her if this is something you have been doing for a while.

 

4. You push her to make decisions that benefit you only.

This is another reason why your girlfriend thinks you are using her.

 

The moment you push your girlfriend to make decisions that only benefits you then know that she will think you are using her.

 

When it comes to making decisions in the relationship you have to do things that consider your girlfriend’s feelings.

 

The things that you will choose to do should not only benefit you but also your girlfriend.

 

If you make decisions in that relationship that only lay positively on your side then she will think that you are using her.

 

Also, if your girlfriend wants to make decisions that favour both of you and you end up changing things so that you be on the positive side of the things then she will think you are using her.

 

The moment you push her to make any decisions that will favour you and hurt her she will conclude that you are using her.

 

Your girlfriend will think that you are using her to make choices that only benefit you and hurts her.

 

So, if you have been making decisions that favour you and you also force her to do things that give you rewards then she will conclude that you are using her.

 

5. You ask much from her than what you give her.

If you ask so much from your girlfriend than what you give her then she will think that you are using her.

 

The moment you ask much from her and she asks a little from you she will end up thinking you are using her.

 

There should be a balance between what you take from her and what you give her.

 

When you take so much from her and give her back a little she will conclude that you only care about yourself.

 

Why should you take much from her and give her a little?

 

Let me share with you an example that you can relate to.

 

If your girlfriend spends a thousand dollars on you every month and you spend a hundred dollars on her she will think that you are using her.

 

She thinks that you are using her because you don’t make an effort to spend the same amount of money she spends on you.

 

Your girlfriend thinks that the hundred dollars that you give her, is just for pretence.

 

You just want her to see that you are also spending on her but it’s the opposite.

 

So, if you always ask much from her than what you give her then this is one of the reasons she thinks you are using her.

 

Lastly…

 

If your girlfriend thinks that you are using her then you have to find out what makes her think that way.

 

You can ask her to tell you why she thinks you are using her. If she gives you the reasons then you should make sure you fix that.

 

For instance, if she tells you that she thinks you are using her simply because you walk away after being intimate with her then you will have to change that.

 

Also, if she tells you that she thinks you are using her because you only ask her to come over when you want to smash then you should change that.

 

Make a point of being consistent in spending more time with her and not only when you want something from her.

 

Always maintain communication with her and don’t call or text only when you want something from her.

 

And give her what you expect her to give you.

 

If it’s a matter of making decisions make sure you be considerate of how she feels about the decisions you are about to make.

 

Ensure that what you decide to do and what you make her do favours both of you.

 

These are some of the things that will make her feel that you don’t use her.

 

Thanks for reading, if you have any questions leave your comment. See you in my next article.

 

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