If your boyfriend doesn’t initiate a conversation with you then in this article, I will share with you what you can do about this.
The moment you are always the one initiating the conversation it will reach a point where you will feel so exhausted.
This will weigh heavily on you because the relationship is one-sided.
You are the only one making effort but your boyfriend is not putting in the effort at all.
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If you will not do something about this then you will blame yourself for almost everything that is happening in that relationship.
I will share with you what to do if your boyfriend doesn’t initiate a conversation.
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Without wasting time let me get into this.
What to do if your boyfriend doesn’t initiate conversation;
1. Find out why he doesn’t initiate conversation.
If you want your boyfriend to initiate a conversation with you then you should first find out why he doesn’t initiate a conversation with you.
Without finding the reason behind this there is no way you will come up with a solution.
There is always a reason behind anything that your boyfriend is doing.
How can you find out why your boyfriend doesn’t initiate a conversation with you?
This is pretty easy.
Was your boyfriend like that when you first met him? What made him stop initiating conversation with you? What did you do to make him change? What does he wants and expects from you?
These are some of the questions you should ask yourself if you want to know why your boyfriend doesn’t initiate a conversation with you.
Was he like that when you first met him? If your boyfriend never initiated conversations with you even when you first met then this could mean that your boyfriend is that person that doesn’t speak unless spoken to.
We have people of these kinds. Your boyfriend is an introvert and that is why he doesn’t prefer talking unless you ask him a question or there is something important he wants to share.
If you are not used to this kind of person this might be hard for you but you will have to get used to him.
It will be quite harder for him to change who he is.
If he used to initiate a conversation with you and stopped then there must be something that made him stop.
Finding these things that made him stop initiating conversation will help you to solve this issue.
If you had an argument with him and you never resolved that issue then know that that may be the main reason why he doesn’t initiate a conversation with you.
He is still mad at you. You are not on good terms so there is no good vibe between the two of you that will make him want to talk to you.
Think of anything that could have made him stop initiating conversation with you then you will have a chance to solve this.
2. Fix any misunderstanding between the two of you.
If you have tried harder to find the reasons why he doesn’t initiate a conversation with you then it’s time for you to start fixing this issue.
With the reasons you have at your disposal, you have a good shot at solving this.
The moment you find out that your boyfriend is not initiating conversations with you because he is mad at you after something you did then you will have to apologize to him.
You will have to let him know that you are sorry for doing what you did and make it up to him.
When you do this then you will be able to get rid of the bad vibe between the two of you and he will not find anything that will be holding him back from starting a conversation with you.
If there is anything that makes you be on bad terms with him then you should focus on eliminating that if you want him to always initiate conversations with you.
3. Let him know how you feel about this.
This is something else you can do if he doesn’t initiate conversations with you.
You have to talk to him about this if you want to solve this issue.
When you have a problem in your relationship and it’s eating you up don’t keep silent about it.
If you won’t talk about what is bothering you in that relationship then there is no way your partner will be able to solve that issue with you at all.
It can be that you find it a problem that he doesn’t initiate conversations with you but to him, it’s something normal.
So, sit down with him and let him know how you feel about this.
Be honest and let him know how this affects you in that relationship.
When you let him know that this is something that bothers you then he will be ready to change this.
If he cares about you and he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings then he will be ready to do things your way.
He will realize that he is hurting your feelings and for you to be happy with him he will have to change this.
So, if you haven’t talked to him about this then I recommend you to go ahead and talk about this issue with him.
Make the habit of communicating with your partner whenever you feel that some things are not going to your expectations.
He is not an angel, so it will be hard for him to know what is bothering you if you won’t talk to him about it.
4. Bring back his interest in you.
If you have tried so hard to find out why your boyfriend is not initiating conversations with you and you came up with nothing then this is something you should do.
There is a possibility that your boyfriend is losing interest in you and that is why he doesn’t initiate conversations with you.
For him to initiate conversations with you he has to be interested in you.
This is what will also drive him to make the most out of the few minutes you have together every day that is if you have a busy schedule.
When a guy is losing interest in you he will distance himself from you because nothing is drawing him closer to you.
This is reason enough to make him stop putting effort into the relationship and treat you like you mean nothing to him.
Also, the moment when a guy loses interest in you he will not want to connect with you and this will hardly make him open up to you.
This is the moment you will find him putting so many secrets from you and things in your relationship will start to be complicated.
So, for you to make him initiate conversations with you then you will have to bring his interest in you again.
Bring his interest back and you will get him to initiate conversations with you.
You can bring back his interest in you by spending more time together, doing the things he likes, having fun with him, being more intimate with each other, opening up to him, taking him out frequently, reminding him of the things you would like to achieve together and avoiding anything he hates seeing you doing.
Try to do things that will make him want you more and this will make him interested in you again and he will always want to talk to you.
As a result, he will always initiate conversations with you.
5. Spend more time together.
This is something you should think of doing if you want him to spend more time with you.
If you have not been spending more time with him then this is something you should check on.
This may be one of the reasons why your boyfriend doesn’t initiate conversations with you.
The more time you spend together with your partner the more you become connected.
And the opposite of this is that if you don’t spend more time with him you will end up being distanced from each other.
The time you spend together with your boyfriend matters a lot. That is what builds your connection with each other.
You don’t have to have something important to do or to talk about for you to spend more time together.
You can just lay beside each other and do nothing but trust me that will make a huge difference.
If you only spend time and give each other attention when there is a problem to be solved then you are in danger.
You are putting your relationship at risk of failing.
A Relationship needs to be maintained for it to grow, just like a garden. There is no way flowers will grow if you won’t take good care of them in your garden.
Take your relationship and put it in a similar situation.
When you spend more time with your boyfriend that connection between the two of you will increase.
This will make your relationship grow stronger and it will make him open up more to you.
He will find it easier to talk to you because he feels you.
And this will result in him initiating conversations with you.
Spending more time together with your partner does a lot to your relationship. Make a point of implementing this and see how it will help you out.
6. Make the habit of having long conversations with him.
If you always have short conversations with him then this is something you should think of doing.
When you only talk because there is a reason behind your conversations then it will always be short.
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Short conversations with your boyfriend will never make him initiate conversations.
When you talk to him because there is something you need to talk about then this will bring a negative issue in your relationship.
If you have been doing that then I guess you see its effect currently.
Make the point of having long conversations with him if you want him to always initiate conversations with you.
Talk about anything you are all interested in when you are around each other.
Keep engaging him in the conversations you make, ask him questions and his opinions.
As time goes by he will be used to this and it will be very easier for him to initiate conversations with you.
He will not only talk to you when he wants something from you but he will do it because he will be used to talking to you for hours.
If you can start the habit of talking for hours with your boyfriend then you will make him initiate conversations with you.
7. Ignore him and don’t give him any attention.
If you have tried everything I have shared with you in this article and you have given him enough time to change but he still doesn’t initiate conversations with you then you should ignore him.
You should ignore him and stop giving him your attention and see how he will react to that.
Doing this will help you to know how he feels about you.
When you ignore him simply because he doesn’t initiate conversations with you he will be worried about the status of your relationship if he cares about you.
If he cares about the relationship then this will get his attention and he will want to know why you ignored him.
This will be the perfect approach to get his attention and to make him initiate conversations with you.
On the other hand, if you stop giving him attention this will also make him want to know why you stopped giving him attention.
He will try hard to get your attention back and this will force him to initiate conversations with you.
When you ignore him and you no longer start conversations with him and he doesn’t seem to care to approach you to know what is wrong with you then know that he doesn’t care about you.
He is only with you for the sake of being in that relationship but the truth is that he doesn’t love you at all.
The moment you ignore a guy and he does nothing to get your attention back then know that he doesn’t find you important to him.
He is only taking you for granted.
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There is no need to give him your attention if he doesn’t bother to initiate conversations with you.
Stop giving him attention and involve yourself in things that matter to you.
If he loves you then he will make a point of fixing this.
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