Is your boyfriend too busy for you? He doesn’t have time for you? Then in this article, I will share with you what to do.
There might be several reasons why your boyfriend is too busy for you.
Some of these reasons may be logical while others might not make sense to you at all.
He is your boyfriend, right? You know him deeper than I do. So, if he is a busy person who is committed to his work or career then you know that.
You probably know where your boyfriend spends much of his time.
Though, it doesn’t matter whether he is too busy saving lives or destroying them he has to understand that he got into a relationship with you.
Before he made the decision to be in a relationship with you he probably knew that commitment is a must for him.
To make your relationship successful you need to sacrifice. One of the things that people do sacrifice for a relationship is time.
If he is too busy for you, then he might not be ready to sacrifice his time for you.
Your boyfriend has to make time for you. You can make him have time for you. I will share with you what you can do, at the bottom of this article.
Why is my boyfriend too busy for me?
There might be several reasons why your boyfriend is too busy for you.
Some of the reasons may be familiar to you while others not.
Your boyfriend is too busy for you because he committed to something else that he feels matters more to him than you, currently. It can also be that he has lost interest in you since a person who really loves you will never be too busy for you.
A person who loves you will always make time for you no matter how busy he might be.
The other thing you should know is that a person is not always too busy for you it’s always about the priority.
If a guy can’t sacrifice his time for you then he is not worthy to keep. To be honest, if he is too busy for you then he might be giving his time to someone else.
When a guy is too busy for a relationship.
When a guy is too busy for you then this means that he is also too busy for the relationship.
The relationship will never make any progress if he will always be telling you that he is too busy.
For a relationship to thrive to its full potential couples have to make time for each other.
If you want to know how spending quality time is important in a relationship then you have to read this article.
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When a guy is too busy for a relationship then it will definitely collapse. This is because a relationship needs commitment and sacrifice, which time is one of these things that are needed in that relationship. You should make a point talking to him and fix it before your relationship fails.
A relationship will never survive when a guy is too busy for you.
This means you have to figure out a way to make him spend time with you if you really care about the relationship.
How do you know if he is really busy?
You have to know if he is really busy or he just playing with you.
Being able to know this will enable you to know where to start when you want to fix issues in your relationship with him.
If he is truly busy then you can sit down and discuss ways in which you will handle your relationship and his busy schedule.
You have to know this because it determines the survival of your relationship.
When you find out that he is just wasting your time in that relationship by lying to you that he is too busy in a real sense he isn’t then you can figure out to fix those issues between the two of you or end it.
You will know a guy is really busy when he is working on a tight schedule. Also, you can know he is busy when he doesn’t have time to do the things that he enjoys anymore. When a guy stops doing the things he enjoys then he is definitely busy.
His texting habits will also, change; he will rarely chat with you and his text will be short.
If it’s not his style to text you short texts then know that he is really busy.
What to do when your boyfriend is too busy for you.
If your boyfriend is too busy for you then you have to figure out something to do so that you make things right between the two of you.
If you will do nothing then know that your relationship will fail.
This is what to do if your boyfriend is too busy for you;
1. Don’t pick up a fight with him because he is too busy for you.
If you want to handle this issue you don’t have to pick a fight simply because he is too busy for you.
Picking a fight with him will only make things worse between the two of you.
Calm down and solve this problem maturely.
Hold yourself together and take the right approach if you want to make things easier for yourself and him.
If you start a fight you might end up ruining everything in that relationship.
You should understand that every relationship has its own challenges. This is now your challenge and you have to play it cool to handle the situation here.
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So, don’t freak out and start coming to your own personal conclusions. That will not help you at any point.
2. Find the reasons why he is too busy for you.
The only way to come up with the appropriate solution is to come up with the reasons why he is too busy for you.
When you find the reasons why he is too busy for you then you will have a good chance of figuring an effective solution to this problem.
You can start finding these reasons by checking his schedule. Get to know how he spends his time.
You can start getting this information by asking him what he is doing nowadays.
He is your boyfriend, he will open up to you and you will eventually know what makes him too busy for you.
The moment you identify these reasons then it’s time to come up with an appropriate way to solve this issue with your boyfriend.
3. Fix the issues that make him too busy for you.
Now that you have found out why he is too busy for you it’s time to figure out a way of how you can make him have time for you.
If you have found out that the things that keep him busy are legit then find a way that will help both of you to have time for each other.
Some situations are hard to change. For instance, if your boyfriend is a doctor then this means that he has a very limited time.
You can’t change this, you can tell him to quit his job, that would be nuts.
The only thing you will have to do is to sit down and discuss ways on how you are going to handle the relationship and work or studies at the same time.
Hear what he has to say and say what’s in your mind and see the conclusion that you will all come up with.
In such kind of way, you will be able to fix things easily without adding another issue to your relationship.
4. Let him know the dangers of not spending time together in a relationship.
You have to let him know the dangers of not spending time together and what it can do to a relationship.
Don’t convey it in a way that it will sound like a threat. Try to convey this information in a way that he will realize that you care too much about the relationship.
You can start like,
“I’m so worried about us J. We no longer spend time together as we used to. You keep telling me you are too busy. What change J? You have to know that the more you stay away from me the more our connection weakens and this will be bad for our relationship. Do you want our relationship to end? Do you want me to lose interest in you? Or do you want to prevent our relationship from reaching its goals?
J, know that we will never reach where we want to be a few years from now if you can’t sacrifice your time for me.”
This is just a rough example of how you should convey your message to him. You would have told him how you feel about him being too busy for you and the dangers of it will be open to him.
If your boyfriend is someone who cares about your relationship then he will take action immediately to fix this situation.
5. Let him know that you need his attention.
The moment your boyfriend is too busy for you and you fail to let him know that you need his attention; then he will never know if anything is wrong in your relationship.
Men are not angels. So, it’s hard for them to know what goes on in your head.
If you have noticed that there is a problem that is affecting your relationship then let him know.
Let him know that you need his attention.
You can openly tell him that he is too distant from you and you would like him to be close to you.
Talk about what you feel without any fear. If you keep it to yourself then you will never be able to come up with the solution.
6. Give him time to fix things in a way that favours your relationship.
When you have done everything humanly possible you can then give him time to digest your information and find appropriate ways to solve this issue in your relationship.
Don’t pressure him. You have already played your part; let him handle his part too.
Give him time to figure out how he is going to adjust his schedule so that it can also be fit for you.
It might take some weeks for him to figure it out especially if he is really busy.
You won’t have an alternative other than to be patient.
Is it worth dating a busy guy?
Dating a busy guy wasn’t actually your aim.
You might have fallen in love with him knowing that you will have all the time with him in the world.
Things do change; life changes and new events pile up in our lives every day.
It is worth dating a busy guy if you love him, the part of him being busy is to make your life easier and enjoyable. He is a busy man because he wants you to be happy later, he wants you to have everything you want which is why he is busy.
It’s worth dating a busy guy other than dating an idle or lazy man.
Let him be busy today, so that tomorrow he may take you to Paris. Don’t you want to see the Eiffel tower?
If your boyfriend is too busy for you the first thing you have to do is to identify what makes him busy. Talk to him and find ways in which he can adjust his schedule so that you can fit in it.
He has to make time for you no matter how busy he is since the survival of your relationship depends on it.
When you found out that he is too busy for you because of someone else then let him know that you will walk away from his life.
In fact, you should walk away from him because he doesn’t love you. A person who loves you will always make you his priority no matter what pops up.
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