Is It Bad To Want Someone You Can’t Have? (Explained)

Wanting someone you can’t have is definitely going to hurt you more than anything ever hurt you in this world.

 

In this article, I’m going to share with you some of the reasons why it’s bad to want someone you can’t have.

 

Let me start by giving you the main reasons why it’s bad wanting someone you can’t have.

 

It is bad wanting someone you can’t have in your life because you will only be hurting yourself and giving yourself false hopes. This will neither help you grow nor help you occupy your life with people who matter to you.

 

Wanting someone who you will never have is like wanting to remember someone you have never met.

 

Do you think it will be possible?

 

When you want someone you can’t have you will keep yourself on hold. You won’t be focused on the people who need you in their lives.

 

Your heart and mind will only be occupied by one person who will never be close to you.

 

When you are in such a state you will never grow in life. You will be wasting your time fantasizing but you will never perceive the reality.

 

You will never grow since you will never let anyone be around you. Furthermore, you will be all alone forever unless you accept that you can’t have the person you want in your life.

 

When you want someone you can’t have you will even push away the people who want you thus you will be left alone.

 

I know how it feels to want someone you can’t have. I was once there. Furthermore, I was so much obsessed with having her in my life yet deep down I knew that couldn’t happen.

 

I remember I wrote an article about this issue. This article that I wrote was a true story of what happened when I was in high school.

 

It’s the very reason that made me start this blog. I wrote these several articles and I never finished them.

 

These are the articles that I wrote about the Indian girl I couldn’t have.

 

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The ending was so painful. At last, I had to admit that I couldn’t have her in my life.

 

The moment I accepted the fact that I couldn’t have her in my life that is when I managed to move on.

 

Though, I never blocked her.

 

Wanting someone you can’t have can be obsessive and can make you lose grip of what is important to you.

 

When someone doesn’t want to have you in a relationship there is no need to force yourself on him or her.

 

You might like this: What Does Forcing Yourself On Someone Mean? (Explained).

 

So, keep it in your mind that wanting someone you can’t have isn’t good for you. I don’t say that you can’t fight for him or her.

 

You can fight for him or her if you love him/her. Never walk away easily from someone if you have feelings for them.

 

Try your best to fight for that person but if everything becomes clear to you that you can’t have him or her then there is no need to waste your time on him or her.

 

There are people out there who are ready to accommodate you in their lives. Be patient, it might take time but you will eventually find someone who wants you back.

 

How do I know I can’t have the person I want?

 

 

This is something that you should have knowledge of. It will help you to figure out whether you can wait for that person or just walk away.

 

If you want to know how you can realize that you can’t have the person you want in your life then this is what I can tell you.

 

You will know that you can’t have the person you want in your life when that person admits it clearly that he or she doesn’t love you and he/she never treats you nicely. Despite admitting it he or she also never allows you to get closer to him/her.

 

A person who declares on your face that he or she doesn’t love you and keeps pushing you away will never let you in.

 

The worst of all, if he or she never allows you to get close to him or her then there is no way you will ever get her or him to listen to you.

 

This kind of person will treat you badly and even degrade you before anyone.

 

So, when you come you come across such kinds of characters that I have shared with you then get it in your mind that you can’t have that person no matter how hard you might try.

 

Why do I want someone I can’t have?

When you want someone it’s not actually you who wants that person.

 

It’s the feeling that you have for that person and the lust that makes you want that person.

 

Several factors make people fall in love.

 

Read this article and you will know them.

 

You might like this: what make people fall in love: 6 factors you should know.

 

You want someone you can’t have because you are super attracted and you have feelings for that person. The other thing is that you have seen something in that person that you have never seen in anyone else that is why you have the urge of having him or her.

 

The moment you come across something that seems special in someone you will never want to let go of him or her.

 

Especially, if it’s something that you have been searching for all your life.

 

You will find it hard to let go of that person even if you can’t have him or her.

 

The other thing also that can make you want someone you can’t have is the way you feel around that person.

 

If being around that person makes you experience a feeling that you have never had with anyone else then it will be hard for you to let go of that person.

 

You want that person if even if you can’t have him or her because the feeling that you get being around him or her is irreplaceable.

 

Additionally, wanting someone you can’t have can also be an obsession. When you are obsessed with someone it’s very hard to let go of him or her.

 

You will continue wanting him or her even if it will cost your life.

 

How can I let go of someone I can’t have?

As I said earlier that wanting someone you can’t have in your life will hurt you gravely, so you have no choice but to let go of this person.

 

This is how you can let go of someone you can’t have;

 

1. Accept that you can’t have that person in your life.

When you can’t have the person you want in your life you will have no alternative but to accept that you can’t have him or her.

 

The moment you accept the fact that you can’t have that person that is when you will let go of everything about that person.

 

Remind yourself that we can’t always have what we want in our lives.

 

If you accept that you can’t have the person you want in your life then you will make it easier for yourself to focus on something else or someone else.

 

You will let go of the false hopes that you have within you and work on building a relationship with someone you can have in your life.

 

Accepting that you can’t have the person you want in your life can be a tough thing at the beginning but you will realize later that you did the best for yourself.

 

2. Occupy your life with someone ready to accommodate you.

After accepting that you can’t have the person you want in your life then you will have to occupy your life with someone ready to accommodate you.

 

Be around someone ready to give you his or her heart.

 

This will help you to let go of the person you can’t have because eventually, you will fall in love with the person who is ready to accommodate you.

 

It might take time for you to let go of that person but if you open your heart to someone else then it will be easier.

 

People can’t be the same but everyone has something unique that you will never find in someone else.

 

So, don’t be so hard on yourself and lock your heart for someone ready for you.

 

You will never be doing good to yourself than depriving yourself of happiness.

 

Life is too short, enjoy it with the person who loves you sincerely and he or she is ready to sacrifice everything for you and let go of the people you can’t have in your life.

 

3. Find something to keep yourself committed to.

 

 

The other way to let go of someone you can’t have in your life is to keep yourself committed to something meaningful to you.

 

Something that can give you an exceptional connection.

 

You can decide to keep yourself committed to your religion.

 

This is if you are a religious person. This will help you have a connection that will outdo every other connection that holds you from moving on.

 

Once you find something to keep yourself focused on then you will have a chance to let go of the person you can never have in your life.

 

If you let yourself be idle you will never manage to let go of him or her. He or she will keep on coming into your mind.

 

4. Be optimistic that you will find someone else better than him or her.

This is something else that will help you to let go of someone you can’t have in your life.

 

Being optimistic that you will find someone else better than him or her in future will help you to let go of him or her.

 

The moment you have hopes of finding someone who will be everything you need him or her to be then cutting off the connection you have with the current person will be easier.

 

Hope is unseen but if you hold on to it and be optimistic about something great happening in your life then you will easily let go of the things and people you can’t have now.

 

5. Focus on building yourself and achieving the goals you want in your life.

If someone doesn’t want to have you in his or her life then check on yourself.

 

Think of everything that you haven’t achieved in your life, think of the things that if you had he or she would have let you in, think of all the weakness you have within you and use all these things to focus on yourself.

 

Focus on yourself on increasing the areas where your strength lies and improving on your weaknesses.

 

Keep improving yourself every day and try everything possible you can to make your life in a position it has never been before.

 

Once you start achieving your goals you will start letting go of the person you can’t have in your life.

 

This is because once you have improved yourself and you are all you have ever wanted to be then you will develop an interest in someone else.

 

This will greatly help you to let go of someone you can’t have in your life.

 

6. Give yourself time; you will eventually forget that person.

Time heals everything. The scars might remain in someone’s heart but they will not be as effective as they were first.

 

Give yourself the time you will eventually forget that person.

 

As time goes by you grow and learn.

 

You will come across changes, which will affect your thinking and how you perceive love currently.

 

When you grow you will eventually, realize that the person that you were fighting so much for doesn’t even deserve a thing from you.

 

All this will happen as time goes by. So, be patient and do the things I have shared with you in this article.

 

7. Find someone who can help you to change your perspective when it comes to love.

If you have done everything you can but you find it hard to let go of him or her then find someone that you can talk to.

 

Find someone who can help you change the way you think of love and that person.

 

You can decide to talk to someone you trust who will help you to make things simpler for you.

 

There are some words that if they are said by someone else you will find easier to implement.

 

If you have no one to talk to then find a therapist in your area who can help you.

 

This is because if you won’t do this, it might affect the productivity of your life.

 

Lastly…

Wanting someone you can’t have is bad because you will end up hurting yourself and ruining your life. If someone doesn’t want you in his or her life then accept it and move on with your life.

 

You will find someone who will be ready to give you everything you want. People are not the same, and I’m not saying that you can replace them but everyone is unique in his or her own way.

 

So, open your heart to someone ready to accommodate you and let go of someone you can’t have in your life. This is the healthiest thing to do. Life is too short to be stuck on one person.

 

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