This is something you need to know if you love each other and she doesn’t want to commit to that relationship. You may be asking yourself so many questions as to why this may be happening.
There might be so many things as to why she is hesitating when it comes to commitment. The truth is that she can’t tell you clearly because you might end up dumping her.
Men are known for their quick hands in taking action. Would you stick with someone who doesn’t want to commit to a relationship?
No matter how much you love him or her if she or he will not be ready to commit I know you will not risk burning yourself alive.
Dating someone who isn’t ready to commit to a relationship is like putting yourself on a trial. The fact is that these kinds of people are unpredictable.
If she has feelings for you truly then why doesn’t she wants to commit to that relationship?
This means there is something behind that.
So, what are the reasons that might make a woman not commit to a relationship?
Here are several reasons why she doesn’t want to commit though you love each other;
1. She has unfinished business to handle.
This might be the first reason why she doesn’t want to commit to that relationship.
Commitment in a relationship isn’t that easy as you may pronounce it or I may type it. Commitment involves so many things that only a person who is truly in love can do them.
Being committed in a relationship is like being in a cycle of repeated chores. How will that feel? It will obviously feel boring.
So if you are in a relationship and you don’t make any effort in adding excitement then you might end up losing your relationship in the first three months.
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So, the intensity of commitment to her will be a task. If she decides to commit so soon in that relationship, this means she will never finish the things that she left untouched.
You never know maybe she didn’t get a good closure with her ex-boyfriend, you never know maybe she has a task that will force her to leave you immediately and so many other possible things that may terminate your relationship.
2. She hasn’t fully understood what she feels about you.
This might be another reason why she doesn’t want to commit to your relationship. Something you should know is that identifying what you feel for a person can’t be an easy task.
Love might come in so many ways. It can also be mixed with crush, lust, and like. So, if you aren’t careful you might end in a relationship that you will regret being in.
That is why in Her Beauty I wrote a blog post that talked about why relationships that move too fast fail. It elaborated very deeply on how this action can make a relationship fail.
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So, she will never commit even if she shows you that she needs you if she hasn’t fully understood what she feels about you.
Until she clearly gets that she loves you is when she will be ready to be committed to that relationship.
The truth is that she might never tell you this. She will keep it a secret until she figures it out. So, if she doesn’t want to be committed to a relationship this might be the reason.
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3. She has doubts about you.
If she has even a drop of doubt in her about you then she will never commit to a relationship. When a person has doubts about you she will never open up to you fully.
She will always feel insecure around you. So, tell me, if she feels insecure whenever she spends time with you do you think she will be able to commit?
This will obviously, make her never even try to give in herself fully into you. Furthermore, she may doubt the love you have for her.
If these doubts cloud her judgment whenever she spends time with you it will be very hard for her to commit.
She will need to clear her head out of any doubts she has about you before she fully starts to be committed.
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If she has doubts about everything you have then it will be hard for her to commit. Everyone is afraid of heartbreaks.
4. She doesn’t trust you that much to give in commitment.
Trust is something that holds the whole relationship. It’s very hard for love to exist in a place where there is no trust.
Trust is the foundation of a relationship. She may be having feelings for you but if her trust in you is limited then she will not commit.
Trust is what makes everything complete after someone considers these factors;
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When a person full trusts you, he or she will never hesitate when it comes to commitment.
So, when you see her not ready to commit to a relationship it may be that she hasn’t built enough trust in you to fully give in.
5. She isn’t ready for commitment.
As I said earlier that commitment needs so much from a person—it has so many responsibilities. You can’t just start a relationship and sit down and relax and say you are committed.
You will have to show that you really deserve to be in that relationship and that your love is real. Fakers will never be able to commit consistently in a relationship.
In this week she will pretend to be committed and the other week she will completely go off your radar. These kinds of people are the pretenders.
When a person pretends to commit to a relationship it’s obviously clear that he or she doesn’t love you.
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So, if she isn’t ready for the responsibilities that relationship requires then she will never commit.
This is the point where she will eventually open up to you,
“I don’t want a relationship for now, can you please give me time to think about it?”
The funny thing is that you give her time and two weeks later you find her dating your best friend! Boom! A heart freezer….Hahaha, don’t worry dude. That is how it goes out there.
Anyway, the point is if she isn’t ready to commit she will never commit.
6. Fear of the unknown.
We can see what the future holds for us. Furthermore, we can neither control it.
Fear of the unknown is one of the things that prevent people from making decisions in their lives. In most cases, this fear of the unknown is accompanied by doubts and fear.
If she has doubts about that relationship on where it will end up she will not commit to that relationship.
The same thing is also with the fear, if she fears that that relationship will never work out to her expectation committing to it will be an issue.
So, this might be another reason why she doesn’t want to commit to that relationship.
What does it mean when you can’t commit to a relationship?
The moment you can’t commit to a relationship it means that you are not ready to sacrifice anything significant in that relationship. This may be your time, your money, your career and so many other things that you really care about in your life. Furthermore, it may also mean that you aren’t sure of your feelings for that person you want to date.
When you can’t commit to a relationship you don’t have to force yourself into that relationship. You have to trust your instincts.
If your heart has hesitation on entering deep into that relationship then there might be something bad about that relationship. It may be an unhealthy one.
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So, when you aren’t ready to do anything important in a relationship that you are to take a step into it then this means you can’t commit to that relationship.
The opposite side of that is when you enter a relationship and you feel so excited to do anything for the purpose of that relationship then that means you are ready to commit to that relationship.
The moment you find it very easy to do the impossible in a relationship this means you are so happy about that relationship.
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She won’t commit but won’t let go.
When she won’t commit but she won’t let go of you this means she is still figuring out what she feels about you. If she won’t let go of you though she can do so, this should clearly tell you that she has feelings for you. So, be patient and hold on to her she will eventually commit later on.
Give her time to identify what she wants from you. You never know maybe she is just tasting your patience. Smart girls can do this trust me.
So, don’t be so pushy when you see her hesitating to commit to a relationship. This might be better for you.
Imagine this situation—she commits to you because you have been so pushy about it and she makes you fall in love with her like crazy and one month she tells you that she doesn’t feel you.
What will you do about that? Who will you blame for that mess? The person to be blamed will be you. You will be hurting yourself.
So, if she won’t commit to you though she portrays that she likes you then just be patient a little a bit. It will not cost your life.
How long should you wait to commit to a relationship?
To be honest there isn’t a specific length of time that you should wait to commit to a relationship. For you to decide if you are ready to commit to a relationship is by making sure that the person you want to commit to is also ready for commitment, he or she feels the same way you feel and you have completely known each other.
The main reason why I’m saying that there isn’t a specific length of time is that; you can spend time with someone for almost four months and you might completely fail to understand him or her.
So, if I give you a measure of time let me say about one month and the truth is that you haven’t known anything about this person you want to commit to I wouldn’t have helped you on that.
It’s also important to if he or she feels the same before you decide to commit to a relationship. Don’t rush in committing to a relationship yet you have known if she or he truly feels the same as you do.
This is important as it will prevent you from being drawn into a relationship that will end up in a bad way.
To conclude, if you love each other and she doesn’t want to commit to your relationship what you can do is to give her time. If she eventually feels the same as you do she will commence committing to that relationship.
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