Do you want to know if someone is pushing you away? In this article I will be sharing that and what to do when someone pushes you away.
So, before I go there I want to outline some of the reasons why someone might push you away.
It might be your partner who we are talking about here. Before we get to find the solutions of what to do if he or she is pushing you away we have to find the reason first.
These are the reasons why someone might be pushing you away. I’ll elaborate on these reasons based on people who are dating.
This is why someone might be pushing you;
1. He or she might be scared to let you in.
This is something you should expect if you are with someone to let you in. There might be so many reasons why someone might be scared to let you in.
That person might have opened up to someone in the past and he or she got hurt. So, this might make it hard for him to open or to let someone in.
Another thing that might be making him or her push you away is that he or she has trust issues that keep driving him or her crazy.
The truth is that if you have trust issues it will be very hard for you to open up fully or to let someone in your life.
This is especially common to people who have been hurt before by people they did trust the most.
2. He or she doesn’t want to fall in love with you.
A person who doesn’t want to connect with you he or she always pushes you away.
We have people who have the tendency to reject what they feel about someone. They completely hide their feelings for someone.
These kinds of people usually feel so vulnerable if they open up about what they feel.
The fact they know is that if they get too close to you they might find themselves in love with you.
So, if a person doesn’t want to find himself or herself connected to you he or she will always push you away.
You might be surprised who would be afraid to fall in love.
This might be something based on someone’s past experience. We have people who decided to be single simply because of what they keep facing in relationships.
I know you would consider the same if every or your relationship keeps on failing without even having reached anywhere.
For instance, if you are in such a situation you will prefer not to fall in love.
3. He or she doesn’t like you.
If someone doesn’t like you he or she will push you away. A person who truly finds you amazing will never push you away.
It will be the opposite of that in fact. He or she will always seek your attention and what to be around you.
When a person doesn’t like you and he or she feels that you make him or her uncomfortable he or she will never let you get close to him or her.
A person can’t just push you away for no reason.
If by any chance you get to be close to him or her you will just notice the change in his or her moods.
His or her moods will change suddenly without even a reason.
Furthermore, he or she might put on a fake smile just not to show you that everything is cool.
4. He or she finds you boring.
You will be pushed away if someone finds you to be boring. People will always want to be surrounded by interesting people who will make them laugh and enjoy their time. So, if you are that kind of a person who is super boring he or she will always push you away.
Would you want to spend your time with someone who is totally boring?
I know you wouldn’t do that. So, this is one of the reasons why someone might push you away.
5. He or she has someone else in mind.
The moment you are no longer someone’s priority pushing you away will never be an issue.
If your partner has his or her mind on someone else who she or she finds so amazing he or she will always push you away.
This is what happens when someone loses interest in you because he or she found someone else.
What will be the need for him or her to spend his or her time to be around you and waste his or her precious time if he or she has someone else in mind?
In most cases when someone has someone else in his or her mind don’t expect to get close to him or her.
6. He or she needs space from you.
He or she might push you away because he or she needs his or her time alone.
It’s not always that people will be interested to be surrounded by people no matter how much they love them.
Sometimes people need time to think about where they are heading and their progress on several things in this life.
So, this might be one of the reasons why he or she might be pushing you away.
A person who needs space from you he or she will push you away and go far away from you.
This is because he or she truly knows that if he or she stays around you he or she will hurt you.
Signs someone is pushing you away;
1. He or she will ignore you.
Someone who is pushing you away his or her main aim will be away from you. So, this is the first thing he or she will probably do.
He or she will ignore your texts. You might send him or her a bunch of texts but he will never bother reading.
The other thing is that you might be passing by in front of him or her and he or she will never even say “Hi” to you.
Which you know for her or him to say “Hi” to you is something obvious to that person.
This person will do anything just to avoid seeing you. He or she might even change his or her usual route just to avoid seeing you.
3. He or she will give you many excuses not to be around you.
If you were used to being around him/her this is what will tell you that he or she pushes you away. No matter how many times you insist to be around him or her.
You might call him or her and ask him if she or he will be available so that you meet up, but he or she will always come up with excuses that he or she knows you will understand.
You might be surprised even by some of the excuses that he or she might give you.
Some of these excuses will be lame.
4. He or she will not spend much time with you.
This is what you will notice from someone who is pushing you away.
Time is an important factor that you will never be able to fake. Someone might fake all the other things but he or she will not pretend to have time with you.
This is because time is something valuable and once it’s lost it can’t be recovered.
So, this is what will tell you that someone is pushing away. He or she will rarely spend time with you.
The moment someone pushes you away it’s like he or she doesn’t want you around.
5. He or she will always start a fight with you intentionally.
If he or she is a person who knows you that well and he or she knows the things that make you sad or happy, he or she might use that knowledge against you.
He or she will upset you intentionally so that you bring up a fight. The truth is that if you notice that he or she did something intentionally that annoyed you, you will get mad.
When you get mad, here is when fights and conflicts come in. You have to know this is exactly what he or she wants from you.
So, you will get into a fight and everyone will take different paths.
Something will tell you that he or she is pushing you away, after that fight he or she will never come to ask for forgiveness from you.
He or she will not even show regrets about doing the things that made you mad.
When you notice this then she or he is absolutely happy that the two of you are not talking anymore.
This works to his or her advantage.
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6. He or she will clearly tell you the truth.
When he or she has done everything she or he can to push you away and you still don’t get it, he or she will tell you that she or he doesn’t need you around.
We have people who are very persistent no matter how much people are pushing them away.
They usually have this hope in them that that isn’t what they want. So, if you are this kind of that person then he or she will tell you the truth.
He or she knows that hearing the truth from him or her will make you realize that he or she doesn’t want you around.
When he or she makes the words open to you and add on a few actions that will portray that he or she doesn’t want you around maybe you will get it loud and clear.
By this, you can tell that he or she is pushing you away.
7. He or she will keep on rescheduling dates.
This is one of the things that will tell you that he or she is ignoring you. He or she will never make any of the dates successful.
What he or she will do is to keep on cancelling and rescheduling dates for you. This is because he or she knows that if he or she keeps on rescheduling the dates you will be mad with him or her and you will never make any efforts of asking for dates.
The moment you say that you are completely done with his or her games of her rescheduling the dates then you will let it go.
That is what he or she exactly wants you to do.
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This is what to do if someone is pushing you away;
1. Find the reasons why he or she is pushing you away.
Yeah! This is the first thing you should do. You have to find the reasons why he or she is pushing you away.
Finding these reasons will give you an idea of where to start to fix this issue.
When you know the cause of something you will have the ability to find a definite solution for it.
Dig deep in him or her and find out any possibilities as to why he or she may be ignoring you.
Take your time and think of the past few days and weeks on what you did to him or her. You never know that you did annoy him or her and made him or her mad.
2. Talk to him or her.
If you have found out the reasons why she or he is pushing you away then it’s time to take a step further by talking to her or him.
This is the appropriate way you should always follow to solve any challenges in your relationship.
Make a point of sitting with her or him and discussing the issues that are happening between the two of you.
If you have found out that the reasons behind him or her pushing you away are workable then make an effort in making things right.
In case, if the reasons you have found out are things that actually end your relationship and he or she doesn’t show interest in making things right with you then it might be better for you to think of your way out.
The moment someone has shown you that he or she doesn’t need you around because she completely has no feelings for you then it’s very hard to fix that.
It will be extra hard especial if he or she has made up her or his mind about that.
3. Show him or her that you are there for him or her.
If someone is pushing you away and you know that the two of you are connected that deeply and you have affection for each other, don’t let it go easily.
The only thing you can do is to prove to him or her that no matter how much you push him or her away you will always be there for him or her.
Sometimes people need that assurance that the people they love will always try to stick around no matter what they do to them.
You never know that he or she is just testing your patience. So, show him or her that you are not going anywhere and you will always be there to make things right.
4. Make things between the two of you interesting.
If your relationship is dull and completely lucks excitement then this might be the reason why he or she is pushing you away.
Make things interesting for him or her. Try to do things that will elevate his or her moods. Things that will make him or her resist pushing you away.
Have fun with him or her and make things pretty cool with him or her. If one of the reasons why he or she is pushing you away is that you are boring then he or she will rethink that.
The moment he or she sees things between the two of you getting pretty cool he or she will never push you away.
Cut off all your boring schedules and make a point of making him or her happy. Turn things colourful and see how things go
5. Spend time with her or him.
This is something you should do if he or she is pushing you away. The moment you give in so easily to what someone wants you are actually making it easy for him or her.
Make things hard for him or her. The more he or she pushes you away just make a point of spending more time with him or her. If he or she is a person that really loves you then he or she will not push you again.
Something else is that if you spend much time with him or her you might bring back the bond that is fading away.
Sometimes a person might push you away because he or she no longer has an interest in you and the relationship that you are in.
So, when this happens and you make a point of making the bond between the two of you stronger and getting his or her interest back then you have a chance to fix this problem.
Get his or her feelings and interest in you back by spending more time with him or her.
6. Give him or her space or a break.
This is the last thing that I would advise you to do if he or she is pushing you away. You have to give him/her space.
Let him or her think of what matters to him or her. Sometimes it might be that he or she needs to rethink his or her priorities in that relationship.
So, give him or her ample time to breathe. If he or she has feelings for you she or he will come around.
You can never force anyone to let you into their lives if they are not ready to do that.
Give him or her a break for a couple of weeks and try to reach him or her. If you have decided to give him or her a break for a week and don’t get in touch with him or her for that week.
Let the week end, and get in touch with him or her and see how things worked out.
I’m ending this blog post with a piece of simple advice; if someone is pushing you away and you have tried so hard to make things right then it’s better to let him or her go.
The truth is that if someone really values you will never push you away; even if he or she will do that but it will be for a short period Lastly, he or she will apologize for doing that.
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